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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 410367" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thank you for that explanation. From what you say, I don't think my son has a sensory processing disorder.</p><p>I do feel ambivalent about labels as I guess many people do... On the one hand, they are indeed useful in getting others to understand that it is not just a child being "naughty" or a parent being "incompetent". And in getting help where that's needed. On the other hand, labels stick - and also often become self-fulfilling prophecies. What we are told to see, we see... It shouldn't be so but putting a label on a child does stigmatise them to some degree. And no-one, children included, wants to be seen as some handicap rather than just an individual... </p><p>What feels important to me is to talk about the behaviour and to try to address that rather than worrying overmuch about what to call the behaviour... Personally I would rather think of my son as having difficulties dealing with frustration and stress rather than "having ODD"...! I don't know why - the former helps me find solutions, perhaps, whereas the latter just makes me feel rather helpless and overwhelmed by some strange monster I don't like, understand or relate to <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Well, I'm stating the case too graphically. </p><p>As a child I was myself (amid difficult home circumstances) very passionate and hard to deal with at times... particularly as an adolescent... In another era and place, I would probably have been labelled something or other. And that label may perhaps have stuck to me for life, limiting my view of myself and my options??</p><p>But these are just thoughts... I am open to persuasion!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 410367, member: 11227"] Thank you for that explanation. From what you say, I don't think my son has a sensory processing disorder. I do feel ambivalent about labels as I guess many people do... On the one hand, they are indeed useful in getting others to understand that it is not just a child being "naughty" or a parent being "incompetent". And in getting help where that's needed. On the other hand, labels stick - and also often become self-fulfilling prophecies. What we are told to see, we see... It shouldn't be so but putting a label on a child does stigmatise them to some degree. And no-one, children included, wants to be seen as some handicap rather than just an individual... What feels important to me is to talk about the behaviour and to try to address that rather than worrying overmuch about what to call the behaviour... Personally I would rather think of my son as having difficulties dealing with frustration and stress rather than "having ODD"...! I don't know why - the former helps me find solutions, perhaps, whereas the latter just makes me feel rather helpless and overwhelmed by some strange monster I don't like, understand or relate to :-) Well, I'm stating the case too graphically. As a child I was myself (amid difficult home circumstances) very passionate and hard to deal with at times... particularly as an adolescent... In another era and place, I would probably have been labelled something or other. And that label may perhaps have stuck to me for life, limiting my view of myself and my options?? But these are just thoughts... I am open to persuasion! [/QUOTE]
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