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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 410633" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, it does raise an interesting point about cultural perceptions of children's behaviour... In France, where I live, children are very highly "educated" and regimented, so my son's hyperactive behaviour in public is far more frowned upon than it is in, say, Morocco or Spain where people generally are much more tolerant of and genuinely affectionate towards small children. And, of course, parents are very blamed here for "out of control" children, as if it is a dog that has not been trained properly... Like most people here, probably, I have had a lot of these disapproving and advising comments, not least from my own family (one of my brothers announced to me that my son was "anti-social" when he was three years old because of his rushing around so loudly and tempestously... I guess the English middle class also goes in for a fair bit of inhibition and repression! </p><p>I understand that these perspectives come from people's ignorance... I was myself until fairly recently rather ignorant, feeling that my little boy's riotous and ill-disciplined behaviour was because I was not tough enough with him, because I am on my own with him, etc. But I now believe that my deepest instinct with him all along was actually right - getting tough with him just doesn't help and actually makes things a lot worse... I for one am ready to try what works!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 410633, member: 11227"] Well, it does raise an interesting point about cultural perceptions of children's behaviour... In France, where I live, children are very highly "educated" and regimented, so my son's hyperactive behaviour in public is far more frowned upon than it is in, say, Morocco or Spain where people generally are much more tolerant of and genuinely affectionate towards small children. And, of course, parents are very blamed here for "out of control" children, as if it is a dog that has not been trained properly... Like most people here, probably, I have had a lot of these disapproving and advising comments, not least from my own family (one of my brothers announced to me that my son was "anti-social" when he was three years old because of his rushing around so loudly and tempestously... I guess the English middle class also goes in for a fair bit of inhibition and repression! I understand that these perspectives come from people's ignorance... I was myself until fairly recently rather ignorant, feeling that my little boy's riotous and ill-disciplined behaviour was because I was not tough enough with him, because I am on my own with him, etc. But I now believe that my deepest instinct with him all along was actually right - getting tough with him just doesn't help and actually makes things a lot worse... I for one am ready to try what works!! [/QUOTE]
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