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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 484054" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>I would reframe The therapist's words on character like this - the question we need to ask ourselves is what type of person do we want to be ?</p><p></p><p>The problem with the approach is the focus is on behavior and not on problem solving , so the kid will either not want to talk about his behavior or come up with explanations that blame some one else.</p><p></p><p>If we focus first on his concerns, let him feel understood then we have a good chance that he will at least hear our concerns</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion the therapist could be helping to facilitate cps</p><p></p><p>Unconditional love - yes - you can try and behave in a way so I won't love you , that won't work . The Bible says ' Love your neighbor as yourself - in order to love your neighbor , you must love yourself - I love myself so I am going to do my best to help you be successful and have a good relationship , and I am certainly not going to be in place not good for me</p><p></p><p>Rudeness - he has a problem , symptom of missing skills etc - focus on the problem , his concerns , not behavior . When we focus on behavior , it becomes our problem</p><p></p><p>It is not easy</p><p></p><p>Allan</p><p>Parenting is Learning</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 484054, member: 10"] I would reframe The therapist's words on character like this - the question we need to ask ourselves is what type of person do we want to be ? The problem with the approach is the focus is on behavior and not on problem solving , so the kid will either not want to talk about his behavior or come up with explanations that blame some one else. If we focus first on his concerns, let him feel understood then we have a good chance that he will at least hear our concerns in my humble opinion the therapist could be helping to facilitate cps Unconditional love - yes - you can try and behave in a way so I won't love you , that won't work . The Bible says ' Love your neighbor as yourself - in order to love your neighbor , you must love yourself - I love myself so I am going to do my best to help you be successful and have a good relationship , and I am certainly not going to be in place not good for me Rudeness - he has a problem , symptom of missing skills etc - focus on the problem , his concerns , not behavior . When we focus on behavior , it becomes our problem It is not easy Allan Parenting is Learning [/QUOTE]
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