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<blockquote data-quote="helpme" data-source="post: 355931" data-attributes="member: 8202"><p>Yup, I'm following along here (i think *grin*)</p><p></p><p>But on this one I don't understand..</p><p>And I missed why the state has custody of the 16 yo? </p><p>My opinion - <span style="color: red">the Judge feels that will motivate me to take control of the situation.</span></p><p><span style="color: red"></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">In my state the state doesn't "take" unless there is a major problem, it: domestic violence, criminal record, parents using drugs themselves, etc. difficult child was almost </span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">a ward of the state when placed on house arrest because </span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">1.I wouldn't surrender custody to father </span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">2.he could not return to the home due to the charges/minors in home per the court.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">If I wouldn't have had agreed to let difficult child be placed with paternal gparents for house arrest, the state would have taken over. Looking back for this unusual situation,</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">I wish I would have let the state take custody. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">Because as difficult child got into more trouble, it because a three way- mom has legal custody (couldn't relinquish it because of the girls), dad has physical custody (due to his posting of the child's bond requirements), and the state took criminal custody until he was</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">an adult at 17 in some issues and 18 in others. It was a nightmare, and in the end I was left out of difficult child's criminal proceedings. I notified the court of my indigence, told each lawyer I wasn't paying and walked away because I needed to care for the girls.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">I didn't know it then, and if STBX walked away, the legal system could have actually helped difficult child. But instead STBX acted as if I was "unavailable" and proceeded to make legal choices for difficult child. Also, even though my state has the age of consent at 17, parents</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">are still responsible until 18, emancipation, or marriage. So we got kids running loose and parents paying for it. More dumb laws like your state.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">I am wondering why the state didn't take custody of both of the kids? Why one and not the other? Why talk to one and not the other? I think I'd be back in court, nicely, to ask for confirmation of the judge's rulings and the opportunity to explain the situation.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black">Also, like for my difficult child, STBX got very lucky and actually prolonged divorce because a kid here can not be seen by multiple judges as a juvenille. So, the family court judge saw my son, and he missed out on the entire juvenile system. I wonder what the judge would say if you had to come back into his courtroom because you turned your son it??</span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: red"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpme, post: 355931, member: 8202"] Yup, I'm following along here (i think *grin*) But on this one I don't understand.. And I missed why the state has custody of the 16 yo? My opinion - [COLOR=red]the Judge feels that will motivate me to take control of the situation. [COLOR=Black]In my state the state doesn't "take" unless there is a major problem, it: domestic violence, criminal record, parents using drugs themselves, etc. difficult child was almost a ward of the state when placed on house arrest because 1.I wouldn't surrender custody to father 2.he could not return to the home due to the charges/minors in home per the court. If I wouldn't have had agreed to let difficult child be placed with paternal gparents for house arrest, the state would have taken over. Looking back for this unusual situation, I wish I would have let the state take custody. Because as difficult child got into more trouble, it because a three way- mom has legal custody (couldn't relinquish it because of the girls), dad has physical custody (due to his posting of the child's bond requirements), and the state took criminal custody until he was an adult at 17 in some issues and 18 in others. It was a nightmare, and in the end I was left out of difficult child's criminal proceedings. I notified the court of my indigence, told each lawyer I wasn't paying and walked away because I needed to care for the girls. I didn't know it then, and if STBX walked away, the legal system could have actually helped difficult child. But instead STBX acted as if I was "unavailable" and proceeded to make legal choices for difficult child. Also, even though my state has the age of consent at 17, parents are still responsible until 18, emancipation, or marriage. So we got kids running loose and parents paying for it. More dumb laws like your state. I am wondering why the state didn't take custody of both of the kids? Why one and not the other? Why talk to one and not the other? I think I'd be back in court, nicely, to ask for confirmation of the judge's rulings and the opportunity to explain the situation. Also, like for my difficult child, STBX got very lucky and actually prolonged divorce because a kid here can not be seen by multiple judges as a juvenille. So, the family court judge saw my son, and he missed out on the entire juvenile system. I wonder what the judge would say if you had to come back into his courtroom because you turned your son it?? [/COLOR][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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