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<blockquote data-quote="Im a Believer" data-source="post: 355955" data-attributes="member: 6448"><p>I really didn't understand the whole ruling either ~ I am guessing since my older minor at home was to be/now is 18 - he didn't make him a ward of the state - this "situation" is in effect for one year.</p><p> </p><p>There is no drug abuse - child abuse - criminal record but I felt like a criminal.</p><p> </p><p>The 1st day was my ex presenting his case against me - all the baggage of my adult children was brought up and where they are now. When I would comment in any way about the uninvolvement of my ex for the past 10 years and the abuse in the marrage - it was met with a OBJECTION and the judge would not let me elaborate on why my children are suffering or why I haven't had more control of their behavior.</p><p> </p><p>The Judge point blank asked me why I haven't put a stop to this behavor. Whenever I tried to answer the guy just shook his head at me in disgust.</p><p> </p><p>What was I suppose to do?</p><p> </p><p>Everytime these boys headed that way they were 17 - 18 and nobody would help me - too close to being an adult. Tried to get them counseling - they wouldn't go - they would run out the door. </p><p> </p><p>The next day was suppose to be our day to defend all the **** but the Judge ended the 1st day saying he wanted my youngest daughter brought in the next morning and she was questioned in chambers and the records are sealed.</p><p> </p><p>My family is extremely disfunctional - kids play parents - kids play against each other - always picking sides - my daughter is always crying to her dad about the behavior of her older brothers but she doesn't inform me until things are out of control.</p><p> </p><p>What is weird about the whole situation - is when my 18 year old went for his first drug test and drug evaluation - I sent the reports as "proof" to my attorney and he e-mailed me back to just communicate with my ex with the results. If this is court ordered - why would the Judge not want reports?</p><p> </p><p>It was never stated if he's positive such and such will happen - it was simply said he needs to be drug tested and in counseling.</p><p> </p><p>On a side note - I was seeking $12,000. back child support - I was awarded $1500. to be paid within 30 days of the ruling.</p><p> </p><p>He quit paying me when he filed for custody.</p><p> </p><p>The whole thing was a crock.</p><p> </p><p>I owe my attorney $10,000 - I've already paid him over $2000. The last thing I want is to go to court again - The whole system is a joke as far as I'm concerned.</p><p> </p><p>My children have alot of pain and have medicated with pot and alcohol - My oldest has been in jail twice for domestic abuse - wonder where he learned that from?</p><p> </p><p>It would have been nice if the Judge could have arranged for some free counseling or rehab for my kids instead of making life harder on me.</p><p> </p><p>My ex has not contacted my 18 year old although in court he cried how much he loves his son and how it is killing him see him follow in his brothers footsteps.</p><p> </p><p>I am wondering now what the heck ~ I am wondering if his ruling is even legal ~</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Im a Believer, post: 355955, member: 6448"] I really didn't understand the whole ruling either ~ I am guessing since my older minor at home was to be/now is 18 - he didn't make him a ward of the state - this "situation" is in effect for one year. There is no drug abuse - child abuse - criminal record but I felt like a criminal. The 1st day was my ex presenting his case against me - all the baggage of my adult children was brought up and where they are now. When I would comment in any way about the uninvolvement of my ex for the past 10 years and the abuse in the marrage - it was met with a OBJECTION and the judge would not let me elaborate on why my children are suffering or why I haven't had more control of their behavior. The Judge point blank asked me why I haven't put a stop to this behavor. Whenever I tried to answer the guy just shook his head at me in disgust. What was I suppose to do? Everytime these boys headed that way they were 17 - 18 and nobody would help me - too close to being an adult. Tried to get them counseling - they wouldn't go - they would run out the door. The next day was suppose to be our day to defend all the **** but the Judge ended the 1st day saying he wanted my youngest daughter brought in the next morning and she was questioned in chambers and the records are sealed. My family is extremely disfunctional - kids play parents - kids play against each other - always picking sides - my daughter is always crying to her dad about the behavior of her older brothers but she doesn't inform me until things are out of control. What is weird about the whole situation - is when my 18 year old went for his first drug test and drug evaluation - I sent the reports as "proof" to my attorney and he e-mailed me back to just communicate with my ex with the results. If this is court ordered - why would the Judge not want reports? It was never stated if he's positive such and such will happen - it was simply said he needs to be drug tested and in counseling. On a side note - I was seeking $12,000. back child support - I was awarded $1500. to be paid within 30 days of the ruling. He quit paying me when he filed for custody. The whole thing was a crock. I owe my attorney $10,000 - I've already paid him over $2000. The last thing I want is to go to court again - The whole system is a joke as far as I'm concerned. My children have alot of pain and have medicated with pot and alcohol - My oldest has been in jail twice for domestic abuse - wonder where he learned that from? It would have been nice if the Judge could have arranged for some free counseling or rehab for my kids instead of making life harder on me. My ex has not contacted my 18 year old although in court he cried how much he loves his son and how it is killing him see him follow in his brothers footsteps. I am wondering now what the heck ~ I am wondering if his ruling is even legal ~ [/QUOTE]
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