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<blockquote data-quote="Im a Believer" data-source="post: 356055" data-attributes="member: 6448"><p>Help Me ~ I think you just did (help me) - LOL</p><p> </p><p>My husband and I took a walk after dinner last night to talk away from ear shot of the kids and he reminded me of a few things he remembered about "the order" that I had forgotten.</p><p> </p><p>I do something in writing ~</p><p> </p><p>The whole ordeal was stressful - two days long - and basically a blur.</p><p> </p><p>My husband only remembers the Judge saying my 18 YO was to have the initial drug test and if it was positive (and it was) he had to go for a Drug evaluation and then counseling for a year. If he refused the initial test and failed to go to counseling - I was to call the Juv. Attorney or my daughter would be removed from my home.</p><p> </p><p>My daughter claimed he was doing lots of drugs - He had to have a hair folicle test and only tested postive for THC - I am not down grading that - I know that is the gateway - but some of the testimony (from their dad) was talk of meth - Cocaine - etc.</p><p> </p><p>My 16 YO is Hyper sensitive to drugs because of the disfunction of her older sibs ~ I don't blame her for her fear - but, I think it was dramatised.</p><p> </p><p>I am going to try to get a transcript thru the court before I call my attorney - they charge you everytime they think about you.</p><p> </p><p>Like I said - the whole thing was a joke.</p><p> </p><p>6 years ago my ex took me to court - He talked to kids into going to live with him. False accusations against my husband and I - my ex and his wife called the state and filed a bogus report with Child Protective Services - all found unsubstanciated. Dragging going to court out for months - my bill was elscalating. Finally my current husband made " a deal " with my ex ~ We would write that 2 kids were with-him and the then 3 other minor children were with us so his child support was based on a calculation basis so we got $350 for one kid.</p><p> </p><p>All these years I left it - 2 years ago he talked my youngest daughter to go live with him. He filed for custody - When the taxes were presented for child support ~ He was surprised to learn my income has drastically reduced the past 5 years (I am self employeed) and his has gone up.</p><p> </p><p>So - he filed to get both kids saying I am unfit. The rest is history.</p><p> </p><p>He quit paying me anything and we were seeking modification on both children.</p><p> </p><p>He drug this out for a year -doing all sorts of crazy things - contacting our Church saying horrible things about my current husband - He was trying to bully us into making another "deal". We even had a voice message from my husband's cell stating if we didn't settle - he was contacting the Church.</p><p> </p><p>The Judge didn't care about anything.</p><p> </p><p>In fact he stated this wasn't about money and I was to move on. We were asking for back child support at the new calculation for the year he had not paid and we could prove he drug it out.</p><p> </p><p>After reading your testimony I am more convinced - our judicial system needs some tweaking - guess I better zip it so I don't start a debate.</p><p> </p><p>I licked my wounds and being the codependent that I am figured I am wrong and not seeing reality.</p><p> </p><p>My husband took it the hardest. He is a wonderful man and has done everything for my kids - especially my adult hurting kids - I pray someday they realize how much they are loved and how wonderful their stepdad is dispite the lack of involvement from their dad.</p><p> </p><p>That is why it is hard for me to turn my back on my kids - my 18 year old cries about his dad - he is a song writer and wrote a song to his dad. We presented that in court but the Judge "slapped" me for allowing my 18 year old to talk that way about his dad.</p><p> </p><p>I am attaching the lyrics from my son's song.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks for listening - I am getting the court order today - my son has really been hurt by not being allowed to come to court and say his mind. I have encouraged him to let go and let it be.</p><p> </p><p>Have a Good Day ~</p><p> </p><p>Alone</p><p><span style="color: black">Verse I </span> <span style="color: black">Mistakes yes I have made. </span><span style="color: black">Drown myself everyday. </span><span style="color: black">My father wishes he had a better son. </span><span style="color: black">Not perfect never said I was, </span><span style="color: black">Forgive him for all he's done. </span><span style="color: black">Coming closer but he just runs away. </span> <span style="color: black">Bridge </span> <span style="color: black">And you, will die alone. </span><span style="color: black">I said now you, will die alone. </span> <span style="color: black">Chorus </span> <span style="color: black">And times, I've watched you torture them from the inside out. </span><span style="color: black">And your children are falling apart. </span><span style="color: black">Now does this make an sense to you. </span><span style="color: black">Or should I write this all out. </span> <span style="color: black">Verse II </span> <span style="color: black">Bad memories with you I have. </span><span style="color: black">Why couldn't you just been a dad? </span><span style="color: black">What the **** did I ever do to you? </span><span style="color: black">I'm sorry I was ever born. </span><span style="color: black">My apology, don't ignore. </span><span style="color: black">Took the time to write a song for you. </span> <span style="color: black">Bridge </span><span style="color: black">Chorus </span><span style="color: black">Solo </span><span style="color: black">Chorus </span> <span style="color: black">Copyrighted 2008 </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Im a Believer, post: 356055, member: 6448"] Help Me ~ I think you just did (help me) - LOL My husband and I took a walk after dinner last night to talk away from ear shot of the kids and he reminded me of a few things he remembered about "the order" that I had forgotten. I do something in writing ~ The whole ordeal was stressful - two days long - and basically a blur. My husband only remembers the Judge saying my 18 YO was to have the initial drug test and if it was positive (and it was) he had to go for a Drug evaluation and then counseling for a year. If he refused the initial test and failed to go to counseling - I was to call the Juv. Attorney or my daughter would be removed from my home. My daughter claimed he was doing lots of drugs - He had to have a hair folicle test and only tested postive for THC - I am not down grading that - I know that is the gateway - but some of the testimony (from their dad) was talk of meth - Cocaine - etc. My 16 YO is Hyper sensitive to drugs because of the disfunction of her older sibs ~ I don't blame her for her fear - but, I think it was dramatised. I am going to try to get a transcript thru the court before I call my attorney - they charge you everytime they think about you. Like I said - the whole thing was a joke. 6 years ago my ex took me to court - He talked to kids into going to live with him. False accusations against my husband and I - my ex and his wife called the state and filed a bogus report with Child Protective Services - all found unsubstanciated. Dragging going to court out for months - my bill was elscalating. Finally my current husband made " a deal " with my ex ~ We would write that 2 kids were with-him and the then 3 other minor children were with us so his child support was based on a calculation basis so we got $350 for one kid. All these years I left it - 2 years ago he talked my youngest daughter to go live with him. He filed for custody - When the taxes were presented for child support ~ He was surprised to learn my income has drastically reduced the past 5 years (I am self employeed) and his has gone up. So - he filed to get both kids saying I am unfit. The rest is history. He quit paying me anything and we were seeking modification on both children. He drug this out for a year -doing all sorts of crazy things - contacting our Church saying horrible things about my current husband - He was trying to bully us into making another "deal". We even had a voice message from my husband's cell stating if we didn't settle - he was contacting the Church. The Judge didn't care about anything. In fact he stated this wasn't about money and I was to move on. We were asking for back child support at the new calculation for the year he had not paid and we could prove he drug it out. After reading your testimony I am more convinced - our judicial system needs some tweaking - guess I better zip it so I don't start a debate. I licked my wounds and being the codependent that I am figured I am wrong and not seeing reality. My husband took it the hardest. He is a wonderful man and has done everything for my kids - especially my adult hurting kids - I pray someday they realize how much they are loved and how wonderful their stepdad is dispite the lack of involvement from their dad. That is why it is hard for me to turn my back on my kids - my 18 year old cries about his dad - he is a song writer and wrote a song to his dad. We presented that in court but the Judge "slapped" me for allowing my 18 year old to talk that way about his dad. I am attaching the lyrics from my son's song. Thanks for listening - I am getting the court order today - my son has really been hurt by not being allowed to come to court and say his mind. I have encouraged him to let go and let it be. Have a Good Day ~ Alone [COLOR=black]Verse I [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Mistakes yes I have made. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Drown myself everyday. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]My father wishes he had a better son. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Not perfect never said I was, [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Forgive him for all he's done. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Coming closer but he just runs away. [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Bridge [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]And you, will die alone. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]I said now you, will die alone. [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Chorus [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]And times, I've watched you torture them from the inside out. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]And your children are falling apart. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Now does this make an sense to you. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Or should I write this all out. [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Verse II [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Bad memories with you I have. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Why couldn't you just been a dad? [/COLOR][COLOR=black]What the **** did I ever do to you? [/COLOR][COLOR=black]I'm sorry I was ever born. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]My apology, don't ignore. [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Took the time to write a song for you. [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Bridge [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Chorus [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Solo [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Chorus [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black]Copyrighted 2008 [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR][COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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