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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 239933" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Oh boy do I know this routine. I just had this conversation with a friend today, in fact. Sometimes we feel the need to push and overanalyze and explain something to someone because of this need to MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND. It's like we think if we just keep at it, a magic switch will go on in their head ... lightbulb moment.. and they'll say, 'OH YEAH! I GET IT! THANK YOU SO MUCH!"</p><p></p><p>It's like when my kids were little, and I would try to punish them. Being difficult children, they were not likely to stop escalating behavior simply becuase I threatened them with time out/grounding/no tv/pick a punishment. So, I would keep threatening more and more dire consequences, thinking at some point they woudl STOP what they were doing because of the massive threat. Before I knew, I'd made ridiculous threats I couldn't possibly carry out. And they still hadn't stopped the behavior. </p><p></p><p>What a complete waste of energy, I finally figured out. Whether it be a difficult child, an ex husband (HA), or a coworker that just doesn't get it, less is definitely more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 239933, member: 1157"] Oh boy do I know this routine. I just had this conversation with a friend today, in fact. Sometimes we feel the need to push and overanalyze and explain something to someone because of this need to MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND. It's like we think if we just keep at it, a magic switch will go on in their head ... lightbulb moment.. and they'll say, 'OH YEAH! I GET IT! THANK YOU SO MUCH!" It's like when my kids were little, and I would try to punish them. Being difficult children, they were not likely to stop escalating behavior simply becuase I threatened them with time out/grounding/no tv/pick a punishment. So, I would keep threatening more and more dire consequences, thinking at some point they woudl STOP what they were doing because of the massive threat. Before I knew, I'd made ridiculous threats I couldn't possibly carry out. And they still hadn't stopped the behavior. What a complete waste of energy, I finally figured out. Whether it be a difficult child, an ex husband (HA), or a coworker that just doesn't get it, less is definitely more. [/QUOTE]
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