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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 217209" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I think I am overall less judgemental of the parents. Like MB, often if I see a parent doing something that <em>seems</em> out of whack, I make an assumption that his/her circumstances prevent doing differently. In the very least, it helps me "let it go".</p><p> </p><p>But I have a little different take on the girl standing 30 feet away. It doesn't really sound like this mom was in the same boat, but again, you never know. Were any of the mom's friends watching the little girl?</p><p> </p><p>When my wee difficult child was that age, he also was impossible to take into ANY store. Literally impossible. Taking him by the hand and leading him into the store just sent him into a tantrum which would involve him throwing items and running from me (keep in my he was in no way shape or form attached to me at this time, either - he couldn't have cared less about me).</p><p> </p><p>A parent of an autistic child suggested what worked for her, and I tried it and it worked for us. Instead of taking him by the hand and leading him into the store, she said to get him out of the car, tell him I'm going in here, and turn and go. What's the difference? I don't know; but it worked for her and it worked for me. I tried to keep a close eye on him while pretending I didn't care, but I'm still certain I was judged rather harshly (and possibly rightly so, I don't know). Sometimes he would lag 20 feet behind me, but he NEVER ONCE deviated from following.</p><p> </p><p>One big difference here is I am talking about buying necessities from the grocery store. We live in a small town, so I never did this in a place like a mall or Walmart, and definitely not for the purpose of seeing Santa, but hey...maybe the baby isn't expected to live til next Christmas and that picture WAS really that important.</p><p> </p><p>I agree that turning her back and not watching is scarey, but I also know that it was the only way I could take my son into any store. And lemme tell ya - it makes ya feel like scum of the earth strolling into a store with your 2 year old tailing you 20 feet back. But its what worked in our situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 217209, member: 1848"] I think I am overall less judgemental of the parents. Like MB, often if I see a parent doing something that [I]seems[/I] out of whack, I make an assumption that his/her circumstances prevent doing differently. In the very least, it helps me "let it go". But I have a little different take on the girl standing 30 feet away. It doesn't really sound like this mom was in the same boat, but again, you never know. Were any of the mom's friends watching the little girl? When my wee difficult child was that age, he also was impossible to take into ANY store. Literally impossible. Taking him by the hand and leading him into the store just sent him into a tantrum which would involve him throwing items and running from me (keep in my he was in no way shape or form attached to me at this time, either - he couldn't have cared less about me). A parent of an autistic child suggested what worked for her, and I tried it and it worked for us. Instead of taking him by the hand and leading him into the store, she said to get him out of the car, tell him I'm going in here, and turn and go. What's the difference? I don't know; but it worked for her and it worked for me. I tried to keep a close eye on him while pretending I didn't care, but I'm still certain I was judged rather harshly (and possibly rightly so, I don't know). Sometimes he would lag 20 feet behind me, but he NEVER ONCE deviated from following. One big difference here is I am talking about buying necessities from the grocery store. We live in a small town, so I never did this in a place like a mall or Walmart, and definitely not for the purpose of seeing Santa, but hey...maybe the baby isn't expected to live til next Christmas and that picture WAS really that important. I agree that turning her back and not watching is scarey, but I also know that it was the only way I could take my son into any store. And lemme tell ya - it makes ya feel like scum of the earth strolling into a store with your 2 year old tailing you 20 feet back. But its what worked in our situation. [/QUOTE]
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