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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 305751" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>My thoughts are fairly similar to the others'. I definitely think for a child that age, you need to give feedback and acknowledge good or bad behavior daily, at least once a day and you can't expect them to wait until they have 100 points if they only get 10 for one thing.</p><p></p><p>The other thing is from experinece with my son which may or may not work for yours- the "rewards and consequences" approach never worked for my son. Now, he does get consequences for poor behavior or not doing what's expected but things worked a lot better when those consequences were taken out of the reward chart. </p><p></p><p>For instance, instead of being punished for not doing chores, he got certain reward if chores were done and it was written that way- nothing was written in a negative way- just what his reward would be if he did it. The punishment was not getting the reward, but the reward would be something that is acceptable for a boy that does what is expected of him. This would be for things like going to bed on time, doing chores, etc. If he did something really bad- like leave home without permission (my son is older than yours), than that would require discipline. So, if your son sassed you, that would have nothing to do with his reward chart- that would be going to bed early or something like that- a punishment.</p><p></p><p>The rewards chart we developed stemmed from the idea that IF my son did chores, followed his school/home schedule, etc., I wouldn't mind if he had a certain amount of time on the computer daily or got a certain amount of allowance weekly. At six, if my son had not lost priviledges for poor behavior that day and had finished his homework and chores (which weren't much at 6), then he could watch tv for a little while.</p><p></p><p>Also, you might want to read The Explosive Child - I found the concept very helpful in dealing with my son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 305751, member: 3699"] My thoughts are fairly similar to the others'. I definitely think for a child that age, you need to give feedback and acknowledge good or bad behavior daily, at least once a day and you can't expect them to wait until they have 100 points if they only get 10 for one thing. The other thing is from experinece with my son which may or may not work for yours- the "rewards and consequences" approach never worked for my son. Now, he does get consequences for poor behavior or not doing what's expected but things worked a lot better when those consequences were taken out of the reward chart. For instance, instead of being punished for not doing chores, he got certain reward if chores were done and it was written that way- nothing was written in a negative way- just what his reward would be if he did it. The punishment was not getting the reward, but the reward would be something that is acceptable for a boy that does what is expected of him. This would be for things like going to bed on time, doing chores, etc. If he did something really bad- like leave home without permission (my son is older than yours), than that would require discipline. So, if your son sassed you, that would have nothing to do with his reward chart- that would be going to bed early or something like that- a punishment. The rewards chart we developed stemmed from the idea that IF my son did chores, followed his school/home schedule, etc., I wouldn't mind if he had a certain amount of time on the computer daily or got a certain amount of allowance weekly. At six, if my son had not lost priviledges for poor behavior that day and had finished his homework and chores (which weren't much at 6), then he could watch tv for a little while. Also, you might want to read The Explosive Child - I found the concept very helpful in dealing with my son. [/QUOTE]
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