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Letter from Justin - ??? Read between the lines ladies
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 136348" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>A little manipulation, a lot of love. I'm willing to bet that if something happens and he loses privileges or the like, it will because of M.E. rather than his choices. He's still young but he's growing.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know how much you and he have discussed what put him there. I do know that in my daughter's letters to me (and mine to her) there was a lot of discussion of what had happened and how it could be handled differently in the future. I'm surprised that isn't required more there. At my daughter's Residential Treatment Center (RTC), past behavior was discussed in group and family meetings, but the parents were told to write about what had happened and how we felt, our fears for the future, what we could have done differently, what our child could do in the future to prevent the same thing occurring. It really did seem to help both parent and child in seeing things on paper, not just a bunch of words.</p><p> </p><p>I am concerning there is so much emphasis on things. We weren't allowed to take our kids shopping on family visits. It was emphasized over and over that we were not to buy things with our kids during those visits unless it was specifically discussed with a counselor prior to the visit and then it was only allowed to buy items such as shoes, bras for girls and even then was pretty limited. There was a commissary where the kids could buy necessities like </p><p>Chapstick. Any items purchased at home were to be mailed to the child and approved before they were given. This saved on contraband being brought in and put all the kids on an equal footing (most were from very wealthy families but some were court ordered and some from middle class families who basically mortgaged their souls to save their kids). Clothes were very specific -- not quite uniforms but darn close. I'm surprised he is allowed to bring so much in. </p><p> </p><p>It does sound like he's doing pretty well and you have many reasons to be proud of him. There's no question he loves you tremendously and that's a huge plus in having him work the program to come home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 136348, member: 3626"] A little manipulation, a lot of love. I'm willing to bet that if something happens and he loses privileges or the like, it will because of M.E. rather than his choices. He's still young but he's growing. I don't know how much you and he have discussed what put him there. I do know that in my daughter's letters to me (and mine to her) there was a lot of discussion of what had happened and how it could be handled differently in the future. I'm surprised that isn't required more there. At my daughter's Residential Treatment Center (RTC), past behavior was discussed in group and family meetings, but the parents were told to write about what had happened and how we felt, our fears for the future, what we could have done differently, what our child could do in the future to prevent the same thing occurring. It really did seem to help both parent and child in seeing things on paper, not just a bunch of words. I am concerning there is so much emphasis on things. We weren't allowed to take our kids shopping on family visits. It was emphasized over and over that we were not to buy things with our kids during those visits unless it was specifically discussed with a counselor prior to the visit and then it was only allowed to buy items such as shoes, bras for girls and even then was pretty limited. There was a commissary where the kids could buy necessities like Chapstick. Any items purchased at home were to be mailed to the child and approved before they were given. This saved on contraband being brought in and put all the kids on an equal footing (most were from very wealthy families but some were court ordered and some from middle class families who basically mortgaged their souls to save their kids). Clothes were very specific -- not quite uniforms but darn close. I'm surprised he is allowed to bring so much in. It does sound like he's doing pretty well and you have many reasons to be proud of him. There's no question he loves you tremendously and that's a huge plus in having him work the program to come home. [/QUOTE]
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