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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 629560" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I have been there so many times with that, with me bleeding all over the place and him worried about whether or not he has enough Doritos for his lunch. I've poured it all into letters I spent hours composing that he never read because he was too busy playing video games. I've sat there gently explaining and buffering what was IN my letter to him and getting his wide-eyed expression and finding out after the fact that he was laughing inside.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, COM. But as RE said, at least he made it easy in this way, in terms of how much you "should" be worrying about him. Certainly no more than he is worried about himself. I think you should consider this a gift.</p><p></p><p>You've come a long way, COM. This is the sort of thing that would have put you into the old cognitive dissonance thing. Not anymore. </p><p></p><p>But I know it still hurts, so much. I'm so sorry for that. </p><p></p><p>I do have faith that most of our difficult children develop empathy. Some have to learn the VERY hard way, but they get there. So let him take that hard way. In the meantime I say surround yourself with people who care back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 629560, member: 17720"] I have been there so many times with that, with me bleeding all over the place and him worried about whether or not he has enough Doritos for his lunch. I've poured it all into letters I spent hours composing that he never read because he was too busy playing video games. I've sat there gently explaining and buffering what was IN my letter to him and getting his wide-eyed expression and finding out after the fact that he was laughing inside. I'm sorry, COM. But as RE said, at least he made it easy in this way, in terms of how much you "should" be worrying about him. Certainly no more than he is worried about himself. I think you should consider this a gift. You've come a long way, COM. This is the sort of thing that would have put you into the old cognitive dissonance thing. Not anymore. But I know it still hurts, so much. I'm so sorry for that. I do have faith that most of our difficult children develop empathy. Some have to learn the VERY hard way, but they get there. So let him take that hard way. In the meantime I say surround yourself with people who care back. [/QUOTE]
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