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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 634362" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Update. Found a 4 Loco in his room after he had been home 4 days, the day after he started his new job. After much discussion and the usual apologies, all agreed that he would go to daily meetings, call his sponsor daily, the usual blah blah blah. Things good for about a week, then all the signs were there again. I didn't have hard evidence because he has honed his hiding skills but I told him I noticed he was isolating and thought he needed to go to a meeting. </p><p></p><p>He went to a meeting and his old sober living manager texted me and told me difficult child looks great and he would take him back. Great, we thought. He can get more support over there. Then difficult child gets home falling down drunk, screaming at us about how we have never supported him, never cared, etc. All the gas in the car gone, so he went on a long joyride, dead drunk, in our car because he didn't have $ for gas. Somehow had $ for booze though. </p><p></p><p>Called sober living mgr and told him, because I didn't feel right about hiding that. He said if difficult child doesn't drink for a week he can have a spot, so either go to detox (and lose his job) or we can spot breathalize him this week. My vote is detox, but husband says that would mean the past 3 weeks have been for nothing and he won't have a job when he gets out of detox. The very thin sliver of me that actually gives a crap about this kid right now doesn't want him to lose his job, so I guess we will go with option B. The rest of me just really, really wants him to go away. I guess I will keep minimal contact until next Saturday, or until he blows more than zero on his breathalizer and goes to detox. Then I'm taking a break for awhile.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if it sounds horrible, but I really don't like this person. I think I don't want him in my life for awhile.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 634362, member: 17720"] Update. Found a 4 Loco in his room after he had been home 4 days, the day after he started his new job. After much discussion and the usual apologies, all agreed that he would go to daily meetings, call his sponsor daily, the usual blah blah blah. Things good for about a week, then all the signs were there again. I didn't have hard evidence because he has honed his hiding skills but I told him I noticed he was isolating and thought he needed to go to a meeting. He went to a meeting and his old sober living manager texted me and told me difficult child looks great and he would take him back. Great, we thought. He can get more support over there. Then difficult child gets home falling down drunk, screaming at us about how we have never supported him, never cared, etc. All the gas in the car gone, so he went on a long joyride, dead drunk, in our car because he didn't have $ for gas. Somehow had $ for booze though. Called sober living mgr and told him, because I didn't feel right about hiding that. He said if difficult child doesn't drink for a week he can have a spot, so either go to detox (and lose his job) or we can spot breathalize him this week. My vote is detox, but husband says that would mean the past 3 weeks have been for nothing and he won't have a job when he gets out of detox. The very thin sliver of me that actually gives a crap about this kid right now doesn't want him to lose his job, so I guess we will go with option B. The rest of me just really, really wants him to go away. I guess I will keep minimal contact until next Saturday, or until he blows more than zero on his breathalizer and goes to detox. Then I'm taking a break for awhile. Sorry if it sounds horrible, but I really don't like this person. I think I don't want him in my life for awhile. [/QUOTE]
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