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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 116097" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Mine was like yours -- she'd turn the wrong way to go to school if I didn't watch her. Oddly, once she started driving, she got much better. It took me explaining (?) to her that getting lost while in a car was dangerous, so it was important to notice landmarks, etc.</p><p></p><p>I would suggest you start now. Do things like give her a certain amount that you will spend on clothing for her. She can pick what she wants (with mommy veto power on taste) but once her money runs out, there won't be any more. So, if she decides she HAS to have the $150.00 dress, she won't have a coat that fits for school or she'll be buying a lot clothes at Goodwill to make up the difference.</p><p></p><p>Start teaching her how to cook, including measuring and experimenting. When she's around and you're doing things, mention the tips you've learned.</p><p></p><p>Have her start doing her own wash if she isn't already. There will be times (many many times) that her clothes will pile up and she'll go to school in dirty clothes, but that's her problem, not yours.</p><p></p><p>My daughter won't clean but she certainly knows how and, when she does, she does a good job. She knows what to use on what.</p><p></p><p>I started letting my daughter know what the household expenses were when she was about 16 and how I budgeted. You can start teaching her now what will happen if she's overdrawn and deliberately writes a bad check; that credit cards are not cash and do have to repaid; that insurance is required to drive a car and, yes, it is a total waste of money until you get into an accident and then it is a life saver; that the bank will charge her overage fees for ATM withdrawals, etc.</p><p></p><p>Mine has the tools but isn't at a stage where she can really implement them quite yet. She still thinks that when she has money, it has to be spent. Looking to the future is just not in her. Right now, she is being forced to save for an apartment. Of course, she's thinking some of the best places around with no clue that she will never qualify for them since she destroyed her credit rating on her previous "attempts" at living with her friends.</p><p></p><p>My daughter once told me she was going to live with me until she was 33. I gulped and didn't say a word. She is not happy that I am "kicking her to the curb" in August. However, I've done everything I can at this point. A retirement community is no place for a 21 YO -- she's pretty miserable here since she's made no friends her own age -- and I have no intention of leaving here unless I absolutely have to due to financial reasons. What's frightening to me is she keeps trying to make plans that include me living with her. Quite honestly, I'd rather be homeless!</p><p></p><p>I'm sure there are books on teaching life skills.</p><p></p><p>I'll be interested in some other answers to this one. See what I've missed for my daughter and what I can still work on for her.</p><p></p><p>Great question! Thanks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 116097, member: 3626"] Mine was like yours -- she'd turn the wrong way to go to school if I didn't watch her. Oddly, once she started driving, she got much better. It took me explaining (?) to her that getting lost while in a car was dangerous, so it was important to notice landmarks, etc. I would suggest you start now. Do things like give her a certain amount that you will spend on clothing for her. She can pick what she wants (with mommy veto power on taste) but once her money runs out, there won't be any more. So, if she decides she HAS to have the $150.00 dress, she won't have a coat that fits for school or she'll be buying a lot clothes at Goodwill to make up the difference. Start teaching her how to cook, including measuring and experimenting. When she's around and you're doing things, mention the tips you've learned. Have her start doing her own wash if she isn't already. There will be times (many many times) that her clothes will pile up and she'll go to school in dirty clothes, but that's her problem, not yours. My daughter won't clean but she certainly knows how and, when she does, she does a good job. She knows what to use on what. I started letting my daughter know what the household expenses were when she was about 16 and how I budgeted. You can start teaching her now what will happen if she's overdrawn and deliberately writes a bad check; that credit cards are not cash and do have to repaid; that insurance is required to drive a car and, yes, it is a total waste of money until you get into an accident and then it is a life saver; that the bank will charge her overage fees for ATM withdrawals, etc. Mine has the tools but isn't at a stage where she can really implement them quite yet. She still thinks that when she has money, it has to be spent. Looking to the future is just not in her. Right now, she is being forced to save for an apartment. Of course, she's thinking some of the best places around with no clue that she will never qualify for them since she destroyed her credit rating on her previous "attempts" at living with her friends. My daughter once told me she was going to live with me until she was 33. I gulped and didn't say a word. She is not happy that I am "kicking her to the curb" in August. However, I've done everything I can at this point. A retirement community is no place for a 21 YO -- she's pretty miserable here since she's made no friends her own age -- and I have no intention of leaving here unless I absolutely have to due to financial reasons. What's frightening to me is she keeps trying to make plans that include me living with her. Quite honestly, I'd rather be homeless! I'm sure there are books on teaching life skills. I'll be interested in some other answers to this one. See what I've missed for my daughter and what I can still work on for her. Great question! Thanks. [/QUOTE]
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