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Living in a state of perpetual Crisis with 9 year old ADHD/ odd daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 583060" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, cbrinke. I know how you feel!</p><p>I agree with-the others, that you need a more comprehensive diagnosis. Your daughter is most likely having meltdowns because she doesn't understand what is expected of her; I'm thinking some kind of auditory processing issue or other hearing/brain connection issue (not whether she can hear but how it's interpreted). Usually when kids shut down they are overstimulated. That can be anything from a scratchy tag on the back of her shirt, to fluorescent lights, to too much noise (other kids) to lack of sleep, to a hidden allergy.</p><p>I would keep a journal (I know, you don't need more to do, but ...) and track what she's eating, how much she is sleeping, whether she is playing video games, her school hours, etc. and see if there is a pattern. It will be helpful to show the doctors, too.</p><p>Don't worry about the medications; we're all on the medication merry-go-round here and eventually something will work. </p><p>In the meantime, I would take one behavior at a time, rather than everything at once. Also, sit down with-your husband and talk about a plan, and how he can't focus on tiny little things because that's going to set her off even more. That doesn't mean she can't learn or be disciplined; just that you can't start in on that the minute she's in the door.</p><p>I love your description of how you can't educate her, and you are only feeding her and cleaning her up. So real, and so disheartening. You know there's a kid in there somewhere.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 583060, member: 3419"] Welcome, cbrinke. I know how you feel! I agree with-the others, that you need a more comprehensive diagnosis. Your daughter is most likely having meltdowns because she doesn't understand what is expected of her; I'm thinking some kind of auditory processing issue or other hearing/brain connection issue (not whether she can hear but how it's interpreted). Usually when kids shut down they are overstimulated. That can be anything from a scratchy tag on the back of her shirt, to fluorescent lights, to too much noise (other kids) to lack of sleep, to a hidden allergy. I would keep a journal (I know, you don't need more to do, but ...) and track what she's eating, how much she is sleeping, whether she is playing video games, her school hours, etc. and see if there is a pattern. It will be helpful to show the doctors, too. Don't worry about the medications; we're all on the medication merry-go-round here and eventually something will work. In the meantime, I would take one behavior at a time, rather than everything at once. Also, sit down with-your husband and talk about a plan, and how he can't focus on tiny little things because that's going to set her off even more. That doesn't mean she can't learn or be disciplined; just that you can't start in on that the minute she's in the door. I love your description of how you can't educate her, and you are only feeding her and cleaning her up. So real, and so disheartening. You know there's a kid in there somewhere. [/QUOTE]
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