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Living with Tennage Daughter diagnosis with Borderline (BPD)
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<blockquote data-quote="Zoobiechick" data-source="post: 527480" data-attributes="member: 12245"><p>Dear Not Sure Anymore,</p><p>I don't have any answers for you, but I just want to give you a hug. I could have written your post regarding my 15YO daughter. Twisting what people say to the point of bizarre (making it impossible to teach through reason), explosive temper, making almost EVERYTHING a control battle, disgusting hygiene issues despite years of prodding, sloppy to the extreme, pathological lying, stealing, sneaking, flunking classes, carelessness to the extreme, hateful words, entitlement mentality, victim mentality, off-the-wall reactions and comments that are totally inappropriate--I just can't begin to say how hard it is. She recklessly pursues sexual experiences with boys, girls, and even alienated me from family because of her behavior with a younger female cousin. We can't let her babysit, even though she begs to, for fear that she'll steal or do something inappropriate with a child. I have ended up in an invisible prison imposed by her behavior, and she has painted herself into a corner but blames others. It is truly alienating and being honest, embarrassing. Despite it all, I love her and want the best for her. Not too long ago she was talking to my husband and me about the "voices in her head." We asked her what the voices in her head tell her, and one of her answers was to follow my husband and me around with a butcher knife. She blames the victims of her actions because supposedly everyone is out to get her. </p><p></p><p>I have tried to just accept that my daughter is mentally ill. We adopted her as an infant, and I have always seen an element of her being outside the bounds of normalcy. It has been a painful road, and like you--and I hate to admit it--I look forward to the time when she leaves home. Almost every day of her 15+ hears has been chaos, contention, yelling, throwing, blaming, anger, and bizarre behavior. But with a kid like this, you wonder how they will make it on their own and whether they will continue to burden you for the rest of their lives because of the issues they have. </p><p></p><p>Like I said, I don't have answers. My strength--whatever there is of it--comes from my faith that if the Lord brings me to it he will bring me through it. May you find strength in knowing you aren't the only person dealing with what seems like an impossible situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zoobiechick, post: 527480, member: 12245"] Dear Not Sure Anymore, I don't have any answers for you, but I just want to give you a hug. I could have written your post regarding my 15YO daughter. Twisting what people say to the point of bizarre (making it impossible to teach through reason), explosive temper, making almost EVERYTHING a control battle, disgusting hygiene issues despite years of prodding, sloppy to the extreme, pathological lying, stealing, sneaking, flunking classes, carelessness to the extreme, hateful words, entitlement mentality, victim mentality, off-the-wall reactions and comments that are totally inappropriate--I just can't begin to say how hard it is. She recklessly pursues sexual experiences with boys, girls, and even alienated me from family because of her behavior with a younger female cousin. We can't let her babysit, even though she begs to, for fear that she'll steal or do something inappropriate with a child. I have ended up in an invisible prison imposed by her behavior, and she has painted herself into a corner but blames others. It is truly alienating and being honest, embarrassing. Despite it all, I love her and want the best for her. Not too long ago she was talking to my husband and me about the "voices in her head." We asked her what the voices in her head tell her, and one of her answers was to follow my husband and me around with a butcher knife. She blames the victims of her actions because supposedly everyone is out to get her. I have tried to just accept that my daughter is mentally ill. We adopted her as an infant, and I have always seen an element of her being outside the bounds of normalcy. It has been a painful road, and like you--and I hate to admit it--I look forward to the time when she leaves home. Almost every day of her 15+ hears has been chaos, contention, yelling, throwing, blaming, anger, and bizarre behavior. But with a kid like this, you wonder how they will make it on their own and whether they will continue to burden you for the rest of their lives because of the issues they have. Like I said, I don't have answers. My strength--whatever there is of it--comes from my faith that if the Lord brings me to it he will bring me through it. May you find strength in knowing you aren't the only person dealing with what seems like an impossible situation. [/QUOTE]
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