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Living with Tennage Daughter diagnosis with Borderline (BPD)
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<blockquote data-quote="Giulia" data-source="post: 527619" data-attributes="member: 14306"><p>Wow, this is me !! The need to absolutely win to keep the control when everything seems to fall apart !! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite9" alt=":eek:" title="Eek! :eek:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":eek:" /></p><p></p><p>What I can also suggest, as a person who needs to win at all cost, is something like : "ok, this person is that and you hate her. So, what do you propose on that ?" </p><p>Instead of trying to convince that you are absolutely right, you ask what can she propose to solve the issue. </p><p>If you don't agree with her solution, respond if you have something to propose. Otherwise, you conclude the conversation with thinking about it during X days, and then we make a definitive decision. </p><p>Strongly disagree only if it's dangerous and/or illegal. </p><p></p><p>In a few words, focus on the "what can <u>she</u> do ?" instead of focusing on "who is right/wrong ?".</p><p></p><p>I can promise you that even if you didn't solve the whole problem, you decrease the whole drama.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Giulia, post: 527619, member: 14306"] Wow, this is me !! The need to absolutely win to keep the control when everything seems to fall apart !! :o What I can also suggest, as a person who needs to win at all cost, is something like : "ok, this person is that and you hate her. So, what do you propose on that ?" Instead of trying to convince that you are absolutely right, you ask what can she propose to solve the issue. If you don't agree with her solution, respond if you have something to propose. Otherwise, you conclude the conversation with thinking about it during X days, and then we make a definitive decision. Strongly disagree only if it's dangerous and/or illegal. In a few words, focus on the "what can [U]she[/U] do ?" instead of focusing on "who is right/wrong ?". I can promise you that even if you didn't solve the whole problem, you decrease the whole drama. [/QUOTE]
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