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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 78845" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi,</p><p>I don't have much advice but lots of empathy, having gone through similar stuff with my difficult child 1 when she was that age. My husband and I both worked fulltime and I remember the summer she was 13 and I had no idea even what she was up to all day. I felt helpless and pretty much buried my head in the sand. And for her, taking things away, grounding, all that kind of thing had no impact anyway, she did whatever she wanted or she stayed in bed all day, depressed. There was no way I could win the battles for control because nothing meant as much to her as "winning"--i.e. computer privileges. You would have thought she could not live without the access to the computer. Good bargaining chip, right? Wrong...as soon as it was taken from her she just didn't seem to care anymore. She would not work to get it back.</p><p></p><p>On a more encouraging note, she is okay now and I never thought I'd be able to say that. She works, is pleasant to be around, etc. I would never live with her again but she is self sufficient and seems happy and almost normal!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 78845, member: 3450"] Hi, I don't have much advice but lots of empathy, having gone through similar stuff with my difficult child 1 when she was that age. My husband and I both worked fulltime and I remember the summer she was 13 and I had no idea even what she was up to all day. I felt helpless and pretty much buried my head in the sand. And for her, taking things away, grounding, all that kind of thing had no impact anyway, she did whatever she wanted or she stayed in bed all day, depressed. There was no way I could win the battles for control because nothing meant as much to her as "winning"--i.e. computer privileges. You would have thought she could not live without the access to the computer. Good bargaining chip, right? Wrong...as soon as it was taken from her she just didn't seem to care anymore. She would not work to get it back. On a more encouraging note, she is okay now and I never thought I'd be able to say that. She works, is pleasant to be around, etc. I would never live with her again but she is self sufficient and seems happy and almost normal! Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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