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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 78878" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Needs,</p><p></p><p>The graduated type of grounding you are talking about is recommended in a book by Buddy Scott called <em>Relief for Hurting Parents: How to fight for the lives of teenagers</em>.</p><p></p><p>Here is what he proposes:</p><p></p><p></p><p>Scott doesn't address things like computer usage but I think I would ban that until the grounding was up. difficult children seem to have a very hard time with handling computer usage responsibly.</p><p></p><p>I tried this a couple of times with my difficult child but it didn't work very well. For one thing, she didn't have any trustworthy friends to let come to our house. They were all difficult children like her. Also, she would tend to go right back to the problem behaviors after the 30 days ended.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child was older when we tried this, though. It might work for your difficult child since she is still young. It's certainly worth a try.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I would go more with daisylover's approach.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and one more thing, getting together and making a plan to lie to each set of parents that they will be spending the night at another friends house is very, very common. I didn't believe my difficult child unless I personally talked to the parent at the house she was supposed to be at. As she got older, I made her call me from the house phone at the friend's house that she was staying at instead of calling from her cell phone. The problem was that they would then take off after they called. difficult children are quite ingenious when it comes to making plans to fool parents.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 78878, member: 1967"] Needs, The graduated type of grounding you are talking about is recommended in a book by Buddy Scott called [I]Relief for Hurting Parents: How to fight for the lives of teenagers[/I]. Here is what he proposes: Scott doesn't address things like computer usage but I think I would ban that until the grounding was up. difficult children seem to have a very hard time with handling computer usage responsibly. I tried this a couple of times with my difficult child but it didn't work very well. For one thing, she didn't have any trustworthy friends to let come to our house. They were all difficult children like her. Also, she would tend to go right back to the problem behaviors after the 30 days ended. My difficult child was older when we tried this, though. It might work for your difficult child since she is still young. It's certainly worth a try. Personally, I would go more with daisylover's approach. Oh, and one more thing, getting together and making a plan to lie to each set of parents that they will be spending the night at another friends house is very, very common. I didn't believe my difficult child unless I personally talked to the parent at the house she was supposed to be at. As she got older, I made her call me from the house phone at the friend's house that she was staying at instead of calling from her cell phone. The problem was that they would then take off after they called. difficult children are quite ingenious when it comes to making plans to fool parents. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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