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<blockquote data-quote="MaryB" data-source="post: 269712" data-attributes="member: 390"><p>difficult child is no longer eligible for Medicaid. He was at at one point when first diagnosed with ALL. His dad is responsible for his insurance, so while xDH was waiting on disability, difficult child was on Medicaid. Thank goodness as difficult child was in the hospital for about 3 months. Now, that his Dad has been granted disability, difficult child is on the State's insurance which is not that great. It still pays for most everything (again, thank goodness as there is no way his stepdad and I could pay for all the treatments, doctor and hospital bills).</p><p></p><p>I do count our blessings as we would probably be in bankruptcy as this point. So, therefore, I should give xDH some credit for being able to take care of the medical for difficult child. difficult child has no idea what his stepdad and I have done to keep his dad off the streets (and yes, it came to that point).</p><p></p><p>It's just so hard to not being able to tell difficult child the truth about everything that is going on. We (meaning me and his stepdad) feel that it would do no good and we just need to go along with everything. I know that xDH loves difficult child...there is no doubt...I just don't like what I've had to cover up for him in order to keep difficult child calm and doing good.</p><p></p><p>Yes, at one point, I did try to tell difficult child about his dad. But, I had to retract. It broke difficult child's heart and he cried so much that I just couldn't do it. Just couldn't. It was at the beginning of difficult child's treatment for ALL. At this point, attitude is everything for survival. So, for now, it's my secret. I doubt that I'll ever tell difficult child about his dad and everything we've done to keep the truth from him. As you all can imagine...I'll do whatever it takes to keep difficult child healthy and alive.</p><p></p><p>It's a fine line I walk with difficult child. I want him to be responsible as I've told him (and he believes) he WILL survive and life goes go. And with that, it means taking responsibility for himself. Yep...that's a hard one for him to grasp so I have to go back to what I've been taught regarding his mental disorders. Consequences for every action. And yep, I get "others" telling me I shouldn't be so strict with difficult child, but as we all know, consistency is imperative. It's a quandry but I'm doing the best I know how. If anyone has any suggestions, I'm more than receptive.</p><p></p><p>I know that once difficult child graduates, he cannot live on his own. I have to constantly remind him to take his medications!! Of which there is a lot. difficult child is also afraid to be alone so...maturity is just not there yet.</p><p></p><p>Tired,</p><p>MaryB</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MaryB, post: 269712, member: 390"] difficult child is no longer eligible for Medicaid. He was at at one point when first diagnosed with ALL. His dad is responsible for his insurance, so while xDH was waiting on disability, difficult child was on Medicaid. Thank goodness as difficult child was in the hospital for about 3 months. Now, that his Dad has been granted disability, difficult child is on the State's insurance which is not that great. It still pays for most everything (again, thank goodness as there is no way his stepdad and I could pay for all the treatments, doctor and hospital bills). I do count our blessings as we would probably be in bankruptcy as this point. So, therefore, I should give xDH some credit for being able to take care of the medical for difficult child. difficult child has no idea what his stepdad and I have done to keep his dad off the streets (and yes, it came to that point). It's just so hard to not being able to tell difficult child the truth about everything that is going on. We (meaning me and his stepdad) feel that it would do no good and we just need to go along with everything. I know that xDH loves difficult child...there is no doubt...I just don't like what I've had to cover up for him in order to keep difficult child calm and doing good. Yes, at one point, I did try to tell difficult child about his dad. But, I had to retract. It broke difficult child's heart and he cried so much that I just couldn't do it. Just couldn't. It was at the beginning of difficult child's treatment for ALL. At this point, attitude is everything for survival. So, for now, it's my secret. I doubt that I'll ever tell difficult child about his dad and everything we've done to keep the truth from him. As you all can imagine...I'll do whatever it takes to keep difficult child healthy and alive. It's a fine line I walk with difficult child. I want him to be responsible as I've told him (and he believes) he WILL survive and life goes go. And with that, it means taking responsibility for himself. Yep...that's a hard one for him to grasp so I have to go back to what I've been taught regarding his mental disorders. Consequences for every action. And yep, I get "others" telling me I shouldn't be so strict with difficult child, but as we all know, consistency is imperative. It's a quandry but I'm doing the best I know how. If anyone has any suggestions, I'm more than receptive. I know that once difficult child graduates, he cannot live on his own. I have to constantly remind him to take his medications!! Of which there is a lot. difficult child is also afraid to be alone so...maturity is just not there yet. Tired, MaryB [/QUOTE]
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