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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 145150" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>alongfortheride- it sounds to me like your sd is meeting the requirements of idea and complying with the iep. Of course, you have to support the rules for your child when they start "pushing those limits". In some cases though, the sd is not complying with IDEA and the school is not implementing the IEP, even though the majority of people who sign the IEP and are on the IEP team are from the school.</p><p></p><p>I won't list all the ridiculous situations that difficult child and myself have gone through, not to mention the horror stories I've heard from people I know. But, I will say that if the students are to live by a "zero tolerance" rule in a zero tolerance society, then I have come to have zero tolerance for the sd. My difficult child isn't above the law, but they aren't either. The sd can call in authorities to check out difficult child's home life (not that they have in our house), so why can't I call in authorities to check them out? I pay my tax dollars to pay their salaries and entrust my son's welfare and education to them. They have laws they are supposed to abide by too. Who, really, is holding them accountable? They could have cost my son his life- seriously. That was at the beginning of his issues- when they could have and should have handled things differently in several situations. I have tried for the past two years to make this work and I have heard BS after BS and outright illegal statements from them. I am sure, after finding this board, that I am not the only one. And I really don't think I can have anything other than a "zero tolerance" attitude for them anymore. If we now have a zero tolerance society for our CHILDREN, oh I am so ready to hold them to the same standards.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, but this started when difficult child exhibited serious signs of depression at 10 yo and teachers continuously wrote him up for disrupting class without ever saying anything to me other than that he was bothering others- as it turns out- he was picking at himself in class until blood ran down his arms, he was putting his head down and not paying attention, he was staring at the wall, he was unraveling the thread in his socks, he was not "engaged" in what was going on... do you have to be a genius to realize that this is something more than BAD BEHAVIOR??? </p><p></p><p>Can the teachers and admin staff not learn that if they spent more time concentrating on teaching and doing what they are supposed to than covering their A**es for not doing what they should, they wouldn't have to worry so much about our kids losing it on them. Not that I'm using my son's diagnosis as a threat, but really, it is the way they handle things that triggers my difficult child, I believe. No I don't expect society to change for him. I do expect that the sd will help him learn what he needs to learn to bridge the gap between what he is capable of now and what we all want him to be capable of as an adult.</p><p></p><p>I better stop- or else I could break my own record!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 145150, member: 3699"] alongfortheride- it sounds to me like your sd is meeting the requirements of idea and complying with the iep. Of course, you have to support the rules for your child when they start "pushing those limits". In some cases though, the sd is not complying with IDEA and the school is not implementing the IEP, even though the majority of people who sign the IEP and are on the IEP team are from the school. I won't list all the ridiculous situations that difficult child and myself have gone through, not to mention the horror stories I've heard from people I know. But, I will say that if the students are to live by a "zero tolerance" rule in a zero tolerance society, then I have come to have zero tolerance for the sd. My difficult child isn't above the law, but they aren't either. The sd can call in authorities to check out difficult child's home life (not that they have in our house), so why can't I call in authorities to check them out? I pay my tax dollars to pay their salaries and entrust my son's welfare and education to them. They have laws they are supposed to abide by too. Who, really, is holding them accountable? They could have cost my son his life- seriously. That was at the beginning of his issues- when they could have and should have handled things differently in several situations. I have tried for the past two years to make this work and I have heard BS after BS and outright illegal statements from them. I am sure, after finding this board, that I am not the only one. And I really don't think I can have anything other than a "zero tolerance" attitude for them anymore. If we now have a zero tolerance society for our CHILDREN, oh I am so ready to hold them to the same standards. Sorry, but this started when difficult child exhibited serious signs of depression at 10 yo and teachers continuously wrote him up for disrupting class without ever saying anything to me other than that he was bothering others- as it turns out- he was picking at himself in class until blood ran down his arms, he was putting his head down and not paying attention, he was staring at the wall, he was unraveling the thread in his socks, he was not "engaged" in what was going on... do you have to be a genius to realize that this is something more than BAD BEHAVIOR??? Can the teachers and admin staff not learn that if they spent more time concentrating on teaching and doing what they are supposed to than covering their A**es for not doing what they should, they wouldn't have to worry so much about our kids losing it on them. Not that I'm using my son's diagnosis as a threat, but really, it is the way they handle things that triggers my difficult child, I believe. No I don't expect society to change for him. I do expect that the sd will help him learn what he needs to learn to bridge the gap between what he is capable of now and what we all want him to be capable of as an adult. I better stop- or else I could break my own record! [/QUOTE]
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