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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 392545" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Thanks, toughloving. To answer your question, my problem with them being at X's is mainly that she lied to me about where she was going. X would not be thrilled with them being there under those circumstances (that she is supposedly spending the weekend with me and she did not ask if she could go there). He's made it clear that the only time she is to be there next week is when she comes to feed the cat - and she shold stay no longer than it takes to do that. Yes, it's weird that he's ok with her being there with boyfriend when he's not home otherwise, but he has always had fuzzy boundaries.</p><p> </p><p>As to sex, I'm ok with my difficult child having sex in a long term committed relationship. It is both a moral and a practical issue with me, though far more practical than moral. She is very promiscuous (sp?) and typically has sex on the first meeting, many times with guys she's never seen before in her life. She's set for birth control, and has been since her first time, but I can't make her use it! This guy, however nice, has been in the picture for two whole weeks. The reason I won't let her be alone with guys here is due to the lying and the lack of trust.</p><p> </p><p>so, it's the lying more than anything that gets me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 392545, member: 9175"] Thanks, toughloving. To answer your question, my problem with them being at X's is mainly that she lied to me about where she was going. X would not be thrilled with them being there under those circumstances (that she is supposedly spending the weekend with me and she did not ask if she could go there). He's made it clear that the only time she is to be there next week is when she comes to feed the cat - and she shold stay no longer than it takes to do that. Yes, it's weird that he's ok with her being there with boyfriend when he's not home otherwise, but he has always had fuzzy boundaries. As to sex, I'm ok with my difficult child having sex in a long term committed relationship. It is both a moral and a practical issue with me, though far more practical than moral. She is very promiscuous (sp?) and typically has sex on the first meeting, many times with guys she's never seen before in her life. She's set for birth control, and has been since her first time, but I can't make her use it! This guy, however nice, has been in the picture for two whole weeks. The reason I won't let her be alone with guys here is due to the lying and the lack of trust. so, it's the lying more than anything that gets me. [/QUOTE]
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