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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 281240" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Step, you just brought my tears back on. Thank you for your words. I hope that as my sister grows older, on her own, away from parents, her and I can become very close. My kids want to know her so much> There is love in this house for that little girl, before she even knew we existed. I love this child protection woman too. She's been the worker for the family for over 3 years, with no plans to discontinue. She's a woman on a mission. I like that our mission is the same. I trust her implicitly and I'm so grateful she broke a gazillion laws to tell me ALOT of personal information. I believe normally she doesn't cross the line, but in this situation, the voice of reason is NOT coming from my father or my sisters mother, and suddenly she had a concerned loving sibling willing to do whatever it takes, therefore she crossed a line in order to help me understand the desperate need to find a solution to this. I was so touched when she said if my sister goes into care she will support my petition to be the foster placement. I feel a kinship with this woman. </p><p></p><p>Daisy, wow. To think your brothers story mirrors my fathers story just breaks my heart. The amount of people I learn have similar experiences astounds me. And saddens me beyond imagining. </p><p></p><p>I definitly have no problem going full throttle to lock him up, testify, do what it takes. We can ONLY do so if someone , hopefully multiple others, come forward willing too. I have brought it up by telling the aunts that this worker has explained this is the way to stop him and end this. I have some small signs that they may all be talking, the sisters, trying to get the strength to agree to come forward. This isn't something they can just say YES to right away I don't think. Their trauma is so massive. I do think that one aunt is getting ready to tell me she is ready. So they know what is hoped by the prosecutor and they know I'll stand beside them. I think we're stuck in wait and hope mode that someone comes forward and says lets do this. </p><p>For my sister particularly, the worker gave my contact info to my sis's mom and it took her a month to call me. I told her EVERYTHING. I think the worker is thinking, okay now this mother knows it ALL. So IF this mother sends my sister to visit my father knowing this history, there is an opportunity for child protection to approach the court to remove my sister to foster care (ME ME ME PLEASE LORD!) for her protection from her mothers refusal to recognize the danger she puts my sister in. </p><p></p><p>That still leaves all future young girls my father comes into contact with. He always dates women with young children. I don't know of one relationship he's been in where he hasn't abused one of the children. Not one. Unbelievable. </p><p></p><p>I've been doing alot of praying and asking God to intervene in peoples lives, to give strength to those who don't feel they have they strength, so we can all face this together, stop him, and perhaps all of us will have some healing in the painful process. </p><p></p><p>If he ever faces trial and is convicted, I'm throwing a party. No tears. Just a party to celebrate the fact that he will never again destroy a young life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 281240, member: 4264"] Step, you just brought my tears back on. Thank you for your words. I hope that as my sister grows older, on her own, away from parents, her and I can become very close. My kids want to know her so much> There is love in this house for that little girl, before she even knew we existed. I love this child protection woman too. She's been the worker for the family for over 3 years, with no plans to discontinue. She's a woman on a mission. I like that our mission is the same. I trust her implicitly and I'm so grateful she broke a gazillion laws to tell me ALOT of personal information. I believe normally she doesn't cross the line, but in this situation, the voice of reason is NOT coming from my father or my sisters mother, and suddenly she had a concerned loving sibling willing to do whatever it takes, therefore she crossed a line in order to help me understand the desperate need to find a solution to this. I was so touched when she said if my sister goes into care she will support my petition to be the foster placement. I feel a kinship with this woman. Daisy, wow. To think your brothers story mirrors my fathers story just breaks my heart. The amount of people I learn have similar experiences astounds me. And saddens me beyond imagining. I definitly have no problem going full throttle to lock him up, testify, do what it takes. We can ONLY do so if someone , hopefully multiple others, come forward willing too. I have brought it up by telling the aunts that this worker has explained this is the way to stop him and end this. I have some small signs that they may all be talking, the sisters, trying to get the strength to agree to come forward. This isn't something they can just say YES to right away I don't think. Their trauma is so massive. I do think that one aunt is getting ready to tell me she is ready. So they know what is hoped by the prosecutor and they know I'll stand beside them. I think we're stuck in wait and hope mode that someone comes forward and says lets do this. For my sister particularly, the worker gave my contact info to my sis's mom and it took her a month to call me. I told her EVERYTHING. I think the worker is thinking, okay now this mother knows it ALL. So IF this mother sends my sister to visit my father knowing this history, there is an opportunity for child protection to approach the court to remove my sister to foster care (ME ME ME PLEASE LORD!) for her protection from her mothers refusal to recognize the danger she puts my sister in. That still leaves all future young girls my father comes into contact with. He always dates women with young children. I don't know of one relationship he's been in where he hasn't abused one of the children. Not one. Unbelievable. I've been doing alot of praying and asking God to intervene in peoples lives, to give strength to those who don't feel they have they strength, so we can all face this together, stop him, and perhaps all of us will have some healing in the painful process. If he ever faces trial and is convicted, I'm throwing a party. No tears. Just a party to celebrate the fact that he will never again destroy a young life. [/QUOTE]
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