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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 281714" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>My grandmother was a very disturbed woman. She had many children. My father was "her baby". It was a seriously unnaturally protective relationship. In her eye, he could do no wrong. She covered for him at every turn and protected him until her death. She was not an abuse victim, but she was emotionally abusive to her children, with the exception of my father. She knew what my father was doing to all of the other siblings, all the daughters and the one other brother. She simply would not stop it because it was my father doing it. And my father was always allowed anything he wanted. Every one of my aunts and uncles ran away permenantly from home between ages 12-15. Simply put, this woman would have never stopped my father, nor allow the siblings to report the goings on. Even if the siblings had went to police, this woman would have protected my father and called her children liars to ensure he would not be prosecuted. If anybody can be truly evil, I believe this woman was. The other siblings all suffered so much more than the abuse from my father. They lived with this womans influence and nastiness their entire lives. Only one found a way to escape it. She simply cut ALL of the family out of her life. She maintains limited contact with 2 of the sisters, very limited. She actually lives in town here where I am. I wouldn't know her to see her. She apparently knows me and sees me out and about from time to time. However, I am my fathers daughter, so I've been told to not take it personally, but that there is no way this woman would ever approach me and if I were to find out who she is and approach her, it would be very upsetting to her. In one sense I feel I shouldn't pay for my fathers sins, but the realistic side of me realizes this womans pain is so deep and seeing me must bring up feelings about my father that are so difficult for her. I'd never want to be the cause inadvertently of more pain for her.</p><p>You know, i knew my father was twisted. Until this past couple months, learning all this new information, I never could have imagined the horror brought to so many lives for so many decades. I had no clue the depth of his depravity or the path of destruction.</p><p>I am so grateful to know that there are no signs that any of his victims have become abusers. That is the saddest part for me of sexual abuse, how abused people often become abusers themselves. It seems the women in my family are strong as is my uncle. They have forged loving marriages, raised great kids and are loving grandparents. Another thing to be thankful for in this situation!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 281714, member: 4264"] My grandmother was a very disturbed woman. She had many children. My father was "her baby". It was a seriously unnaturally protective relationship. In her eye, he could do no wrong. She covered for him at every turn and protected him until her death. She was not an abuse victim, but she was emotionally abusive to her children, with the exception of my father. She knew what my father was doing to all of the other siblings, all the daughters and the one other brother. She simply would not stop it because it was my father doing it. And my father was always allowed anything he wanted. Every one of my aunts and uncles ran away permenantly from home between ages 12-15. Simply put, this woman would have never stopped my father, nor allow the siblings to report the goings on. Even if the siblings had went to police, this woman would have protected my father and called her children liars to ensure he would not be prosecuted. If anybody can be truly evil, I believe this woman was. The other siblings all suffered so much more than the abuse from my father. They lived with this womans influence and nastiness their entire lives. Only one found a way to escape it. She simply cut ALL of the family out of her life. She maintains limited contact with 2 of the sisters, very limited. She actually lives in town here where I am. I wouldn't know her to see her. She apparently knows me and sees me out and about from time to time. However, I am my fathers daughter, so I've been told to not take it personally, but that there is no way this woman would ever approach me and if I were to find out who she is and approach her, it would be very upsetting to her. In one sense I feel I shouldn't pay for my fathers sins, but the realistic side of me realizes this womans pain is so deep and seeing me must bring up feelings about my father that are so difficult for her. I'd never want to be the cause inadvertently of more pain for her. You know, i knew my father was twisted. Until this past couple months, learning all this new information, I never could have imagined the horror brought to so many lives for so many decades. I had no clue the depth of his depravity or the path of destruction. I am so grateful to know that there are no signs that any of his victims have become abusers. That is the saddest part for me of sexual abuse, how abused people often become abusers themselves. It seems the women in my family are strong as is my uncle. They have forged loving marriages, raised great kids and are loving grandparents. Another thing to be thankful for in this situation! [/QUOTE]
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