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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 615987" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome Heavy Sigh. Great name by the way. I'm glad you joined us.</p><p></p><p>You have quite the predicament.............brought on by your difficult child's poor choices. As Cedar has mentioned, more info would be helpful for us to offer healthy support.</p><p></p><p>My first instinct is similar to SuZir, have you applied for food stamps, medical and housing through Social Services? Before you commit to paying for your daughter's apartment, it may be prudent for you to seek help in other areas. </p><p></p><p>One resource that may assist you is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They can be accessed online and have chapters everywhere. They offer excellent parenting classes as well as helping with providing resources for your daughter. You might try getting in touch with them before you make any monetary commitments you will be responsible for, especially with an abuser who will likely be living with your daughter. You will be responsible for any damages that occur to the apartment. NAMI may be able to provide you with the support YOU and your husband need now to make healthy and positive choices. They may also be able to help with options for immediate housing.</p><p></p><p>You may also want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here.</p><p></p><p>While you go through this with your daughter, I think the best advice I can offer you is to seek out professional support for yourself and your husband. Most of us here need that support to help us learn how to detach and to learn tools, be heard and understood, to find a guide who can help us navigate this often treacherous landscape. It is very difficult to detach from our kids, but in most cases, that is the solution, not only for them,but for US too.</p><p></p><p>You might also look into shelters in your areas for woman and children. In the interim, there are often low cost long term hotels and motels which may provide an alternative while you sort through the options. </p><p></p><p>If you don't want her to come back home then don't make that choice now. If you are hesitant about paying for an apartment long term, then look into other options. Generally our first instincts are correct and then we override them with our doubts and fears. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are going through this, it's a difficult path for all of us. There are options out there for you, begin doing some research. I'm glad you found us, keep posting it helps. You're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 615987, member: 13542"] Welcome Heavy Sigh. Great name by the way. I'm glad you joined us. You have quite the predicament.............brought on by your difficult child's poor choices. As Cedar has mentioned, more info would be helpful for us to offer healthy support. My first instinct is similar to SuZir, have you applied for food stamps, medical and housing through Social Services? Before you commit to paying for your daughter's apartment, it may be prudent for you to seek help in other areas. One resource that may assist you is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They can be accessed online and have chapters everywhere. They offer excellent parenting classes as well as helping with providing resources for your daughter. You might try getting in touch with them before you make any monetary commitments you will be responsible for, especially with an abuser who will likely be living with your daughter. You will be responsible for any damages that occur to the apartment. NAMI may be able to provide you with the support YOU and your husband need now to make healthy and positive choices. They may also be able to help with options for immediate housing. You may also want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. While you go through this with your daughter, I think the best advice I can offer you is to seek out professional support for yourself and your husband. Most of us here need that support to help us learn how to detach and to learn tools, be heard and understood, to find a guide who can help us navigate this often treacherous landscape. It is very difficult to detach from our kids, but in most cases, that is the solution, not only for them,but for US too. You might also look into shelters in your areas for woman and children. In the interim, there are often low cost long term hotels and motels which may provide an alternative while you sort through the options. If you don't want her to come back home then don't make that choice now. If you are hesitant about paying for an apartment long term, then look into other options. Generally our first instincts are correct and then we override them with our doubts and fears. I am sorry you are going through this, it's a difficult path for all of us. There are options out there for you, begin doing some research. I'm glad you found us, keep posting it helps. You're not alone. [/QUOTE]
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