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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 616002" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Does she qualify for Section 8 housing? Of course, to live there (and there could be waiting lists, but I think being pregnant puts her at the top of the list. Homeless as well). Also...there are things you can do to get kicked out, such as drug abuse, breaking the law, etc...they will go over the rules with her.</p><p> </p><p>If you do sign for an apartment, which she may decide to trash or not live in and then YOU are responsible, I would do a month-to-month arrangement and let her get assistance for food and other things. I would not go broke supporting her, the loser boyfriend...I'd be more apt to help with baby stuff, such as diapers and formula, although she can get assistance for that as well.</p><p> </p><p>For mental health issues, she has to want help. There are county services that work on a sliding scale to free, but you can't force it. There are no facilities that will totally wrap her in cotton. She will have to do the work and follow the rules. As she is of age, you will not be allowed to do that for her.</p><p> </p><p>I am an adoptive parent too and I don't know what age you adopted her at, but older adopted kids tend to usually (not always) have poor outcomes and my heart hurts for you. She may have attachment issues on top of her other ones, but that no longer matters. She is an adult and nobody will swoop down and care for her anymore unless she puts forth an effort.</p><p> </p><p>I think adoption sounds good as an option she should consider. Unfortunately few difficult children are willing to do this, although they pretty much realize the child will not have a stable life. Their impulsiveness and me-centric thinking usually overrides what they know would be the best in the backs of their minds. And being adopted, few want to do the same to their child, even if they are not equipped to care for the child.</p><p> </p><p>I hope it works out for you and your daughter. Please keep in touch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 616002, member: 1550"] Does she qualify for Section 8 housing? Of course, to live there (and there could be waiting lists, but I think being pregnant puts her at the top of the list. Homeless as well). Also...there are things you can do to get kicked out, such as drug abuse, breaking the law, etc...they will go over the rules with her. If you do sign for an apartment, which she may decide to trash or not live in and then YOU are responsible, I would do a month-to-month arrangement and let her get assistance for food and other things. I would not go broke supporting her, the loser boyfriend...I'd be more apt to help with baby stuff, such as diapers and formula, although she can get assistance for that as well. For mental health issues, she has to want help. There are county services that work on a sliding scale to free, but you can't force it. There are no facilities that will totally wrap her in cotton. She will have to do the work and follow the rules. As she is of age, you will not be allowed to do that for her. I am an adoptive parent too and I don't know what age you adopted her at, but older adopted kids tend to usually (not always) have poor outcomes and my heart hurts for you. She may have attachment issues on top of her other ones, but that no longer matters. She is an adult and nobody will swoop down and care for her anymore unless she puts forth an effort. I think adoption sounds good as an option she should consider. Unfortunately few difficult children are willing to do this, although they pretty much realize the child will not have a stable life. Their impulsiveness and me-centric thinking usually overrides what they know would be the best in the backs of their minds. And being adopted, few want to do the same to their child, even if they are not equipped to care for the child. I hope it works out for you and your daughter. Please keep in touch. [/QUOTE]
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