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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 616004" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>It's good you applied for SSI but if they don't deem her disabled that might not go thru - I recommend you check into social services also some religious groups have homes for unwed mothers BEFORE renting an apartment. Community mental health thru the county has housing options here also but if already have a roof they won't get it. I can't imagine what a bipolar person off medications (can't take many while pregnant) combined with the pregnancy hormones would look like, my Angel might need a lock down facility in that situation. Even if physically healthy this is a high risk pregnancy.</p><p></p><p>Almost 30 years ago after living on my own for 3 years I had to swallow my pride and move back with my folks (6 months pregnant, malnutrition & threatening miscarriage) My dad had been paying for blue cross insurance & on first attempt at social services they couldn't give me any help at all. </p><p></p><p>I had my dad cancel the blue cross and when I went back a month later with the big belly, no insurance and claiming my address was that suitcase I just sat next to my chair - all kinds of programs suddenly became available. Like being placed on waiting list for section 8 housing, and I don't think I went in at the bottom of list. Some times waiting lists that are closed will open long enough to add an urgent need person to it. Cars - if car is worth more then $1500 it's a good idea to keep it in your name DHS may call it a cash asset that needs to be sold before assistance given otherwise.</p><p></p><p>Because of my dad's income I wasn't eligible for food stamps but was eligible for WIC, I received a small cash grant that I paid my dad rent out of (found out later he banked it for a security deposit for me) wasn't eligible for Pell grant for school but financial aid found a displaced homemaker grant that covered all my tuition & lab fees (all I had to buy was books). I got a little help from 5 different sources and it was enough that with my parents assistance got back on my feet.</p><p></p><p>What it comes down to is if social services thinks they can get anyone else to support this person they won't help, but they know the strain on society sickly babies of mothers who don't get prenatal care cause so they will provide the help if no one else is. You can still help her but apply for assistance first and her attitude while applying has to be she has nothing. </p><p></p><p>It was hard after being on my own going back to my folks house but I needed them more then then I did when I was 5yo. I knew how to work but if didn't stay in bed would have lost Danny I'm sure of it. I had babysat but when it came to full time care of a newborn I was clueless - I really needed my mother and all those parenting programs social services & WIC provided.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is so lucky to have your help and she needs you more now then when she was little. Keep us posted while on this journey and so glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 616004, member: 7170"] It's good you applied for SSI but if they don't deem her disabled that might not go thru - I recommend you check into social services also some religious groups have homes for unwed mothers BEFORE renting an apartment. Community mental health thru the county has housing options here also but if already have a roof they won't get it. I can't imagine what a bipolar person off medications (can't take many while pregnant) combined with the pregnancy hormones would look like, my Angel might need a lock down facility in that situation. Even if physically healthy this is a high risk pregnancy. Almost 30 years ago after living on my own for 3 years I had to swallow my pride and move back with my folks (6 months pregnant, malnutrition & threatening miscarriage) My dad had been paying for blue cross insurance & on first attempt at social services they couldn't give me any help at all. I had my dad cancel the blue cross and when I went back a month later with the big belly, no insurance and claiming my address was that suitcase I just sat next to my chair - all kinds of programs suddenly became available. Like being placed on waiting list for section 8 housing, and I don't think I went in at the bottom of list. Some times waiting lists that are closed will open long enough to add an urgent need person to it. Cars - if car is worth more then $1500 it's a good idea to keep it in your name DHS may call it a cash asset that needs to be sold before assistance given otherwise. Because of my dad's income I wasn't eligible for food stamps but was eligible for WIC, I received a small cash grant that I paid my dad rent out of (found out later he banked it for a security deposit for me) wasn't eligible for Pell grant for school but financial aid found a displaced homemaker grant that covered all my tuition & lab fees (all I had to buy was books). I got a little help from 5 different sources and it was enough that with my parents assistance got back on my feet. What it comes down to is if social services thinks they can get anyone else to support this person they won't help, but they know the strain on society sickly babies of mothers who don't get prenatal care cause so they will provide the help if no one else is. You can still help her but apply for assistance first and her attitude while applying has to be she has nothing. It was hard after being on my own going back to my folks house but I needed them more then then I did when I was 5yo. I knew how to work but if didn't stay in bed would have lost Danny I'm sure of it. I had babysat but when it came to full time care of a newborn I was clueless - I really needed my mother and all those parenting programs social services & WIC provided. Your daughter is so lucky to have your help and she needs you more now then when she was little. Keep us posted while on this journey and so glad you found us. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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