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<blockquote data-quote="Heavy sigh" data-source="post: 616009" data-attributes="member: 17186"><p>Thank you for your responses. I'll try to fill in some of the blanks.</p><p></p><p>1. We have looked at homes for pregnant teens. While we live in a large city, there simply are not many options. And, because of her (our) background, the spots often go to "needier" girls, which is hard for me to argue with. While my daughter wandered the streets and couch surfed for days and weeks this summer and fall, she does have quite a village of support around her.</p><p></p><p>2. We have successfully enrolled her in nutritional assistance and medical coverage that will cover what my insurance does not. I can't drop her from my insurance until later next year, if I choose to do so. Will decide that when the time comes.</p><p></p><p>3. She does not drink or use drugs (tried them -- didn't like them -- I still test when she is in my presence). Since being pregnant, she has been very careful. She does have regular prenatal care and has a healthy baby boy. She is not taking any medications because of the pregnancy but is doing surprisingly well. The biggest issue is the lack of ADHD medications which makes her impulse control difficult and scares her about getting a job. She is well monitored by a great psychiatrist. Nonetheless, we are headed out today to job search around the proposed apartment area. Where she is staying right now is in a rural area without buses. So, job hunting has been hard.</p><p></p><p>4. Her schooling is paid for by our States vocational rehab program. She is one of the lucky ones that really does have a lot already in place. She just needs to buckle down and do it.</p><p></p><p>5. We are meeting with an adoption counselor next week. She set that up and wants me to go with her. She isn't 100% certain that is her plan but she recognizes her limitations as a mom right now, particularly given how erratic her boyfriend is. I have not given her any opinions on the adoption because she hasn't asked, but she knows I'll help her if that is the way she wants to go.</p><p></p><p>6. She was adopted at birth, connected with her birth mom at age 13, which has not been a good relationship. difficult child will be the first to say that she regrets ever getting in contact with her (via social media). </p><p></p><p>7. I want to help but not enable. We have had counseling off and on but right now feel backed into a corner. Frankly, if there wasn't a baby at risk, we would not step in at all. Her age, the baby and her apparent attempts to do better (school, counselors, etc) make it hard for me to know what's right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Heavy sigh, post: 616009, member: 17186"] Thank you for your responses. I'll try to fill in some of the blanks. 1. We have looked at homes for pregnant teens. While we live in a large city, there simply are not many options. And, because of her (our) background, the spots often go to "needier" girls, which is hard for me to argue with. While my daughter wandered the streets and couch surfed for days and weeks this summer and fall, she does have quite a village of support around her. 2. We have successfully enrolled her in nutritional assistance and medical coverage that will cover what my insurance does not. I can't drop her from my insurance until later next year, if I choose to do so. Will decide that when the time comes. 3. She does not drink or use drugs (tried them -- didn't like them -- I still test when she is in my presence). Since being pregnant, she has been very careful. She does have regular prenatal care and has a healthy baby boy. She is not taking any medications because of the pregnancy but is doing surprisingly well. The biggest issue is the lack of ADHD medications which makes her impulse control difficult and scares her about getting a job. She is well monitored by a great psychiatrist. Nonetheless, we are headed out today to job search around the proposed apartment area. Where she is staying right now is in a rural area without buses. So, job hunting has been hard. 4. Her schooling is paid for by our States vocational rehab program. She is one of the lucky ones that really does have a lot already in place. She just needs to buckle down and do it. 5. We are meeting with an adoption counselor next week. She set that up and wants me to go with her. She isn't 100% certain that is her plan but she recognizes her limitations as a mom right now, particularly given how erratic her boyfriend is. I have not given her any opinions on the adoption because she hasn't asked, but she knows I'll help her if that is the way she wants to go. 6. She was adopted at birth, connected with her birth mom at age 13, which has not been a good relationship. difficult child will be the first to say that she regrets ever getting in contact with her (via social media). 7. I want to help but not enable. We have had counseling off and on but right now feel backed into a corner. Frankly, if there wasn't a baby at risk, we would not step in at all. Her age, the baby and her apparent attempts to do better (school, counselors, etc) make it hard for me to know what's right. [/QUOTE]
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