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<blockquote data-quote="Heavy sigh" data-source="post: 616597" data-attributes="member: 17186"><p>Thank you so much for your kind encouragement. I am trying to hold true to the advice from so many to wait until a solution feels right. We have told difficult child we will move her to her apartment the weekend before school starts. Also, we are only signing a 6 month lease to limit our exposure. She seems so focused on getting a job and starting school that it is hard to discourage that. That being said, she has begged for us to do it this weekend, but that doesn't feel right -- so we wait. </p><p></p><p>My reason for holding my opinions about adoption are two-fold. 1. I want both my daughter and her baby to have the possibility of a life without her boyfriend. And, my difficult child is a troubled 18 year old girl -- not "quite" ready to be a mom. That makes adoption the obvious solution 2. My difficult child, for all that she appears to ignore what I say, still can be influenced by my words. And, I honestly have no idea how I feel about this baby. I see him in the ultrasound and can imagine him as my grand baby. So for now -- I remain silent.</p><p></p><p>I continue to lurk around other posts and I have to say seeing others "walking in my shoes" makes me feel less alone. "Everybody" seems to have an idea of how I can be doing better, but they've never been here. </p><p></p><p>We have had a lovely, mostly easy week with my difficult child home. She is reluctant to return to our friends home for the week, but that too feels right to me. More to come in this journey I'm sure.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Heavy sigh, post: 616597, member: 17186"] Thank you so much for your kind encouragement. I am trying to hold true to the advice from so many to wait until a solution feels right. We have told difficult child we will move her to her apartment the weekend before school starts. Also, we are only signing a 6 month lease to limit our exposure. She seems so focused on getting a job and starting school that it is hard to discourage that. That being said, she has begged for us to do it this weekend, but that doesn't feel right -- so we wait. My reason for holding my opinions about adoption are two-fold. 1. I want both my daughter and her baby to have the possibility of a life without her boyfriend. And, my difficult child is a troubled 18 year old girl -- not "quite" ready to be a mom. That makes adoption the obvious solution 2. My difficult child, for all that she appears to ignore what I say, still can be influenced by my words. And, I honestly have no idea how I feel about this baby. I see him in the ultrasound and can imagine him as my grand baby. So for now -- I remain silent. I continue to lurk around other posts and I have to say seeing others "walking in my shoes" makes me feel less alone. "Everybody" seems to have an idea of how I can be doing better, but they've never been here. We have had a lovely, mostly easy week with my difficult child home. She is reluctant to return to our friends home for the week, but that too feels right to me. More to come in this journey I'm sure. [/QUOTE]
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