I was a single mom for a long time until I remarried, I worked 3 jobs at one point but always at least 2 because I never received child support from my younger 2 children's father, he is an addict and cant hold down a job. My 2 younger ones left home once they graduated (they were already 18) so they didn't have to follow rules and so on... So my son thought living with his dad was great no rules. Well he still has yet to find a job and doesn't ask me for much until recently. See his father actually got a job and the state I live in is now garnishing his check for back pay on child support. Needless to say he isn't happy with this and now my kids feel it is there right for me to just give them money when they want. Am I wrong? I worked and raised them the best I could, this is "BACKPAY" I don't mind helping sometimes but I am afraid they will get into the habit of expecting it, and to make it worse their dad is encouraging it hoping to get me to send it back to him. I am wore out from these people!!! When will I finally find peace??