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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 387501" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>I don't like the ' blame ' word even if the difficult child blames himself because it just creates a mindset that that problems are here to stay because of me or because of her. Blame focuses on the past and staying in the past. The way to solve problems is to externalize them , see them on a screen , even use imaginery people . Blame also focuses on the negative - what difficult child is doing and not what she could be doing and she needs help to articulate her goals and concerns and come up with a plan which is feasible and realistic. husband maybe part of the plan , but difficult child and husband will have to sit down and find a plan which is mutually satisfactory. Again , in my humble opinion we need to get of the blame word. Taking responsibility is not about taking the blame or even admitting what you did , but rather seeing that there is a problem to be solved and working on it.</p><p></p><p>Not easy</p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 387501, member: 10"] Hi, I don't like the ' blame ' word even if the difficult child blames himself because it just creates a mindset that that problems are here to stay because of me or because of her. Blame focuses on the past and staying in the past. The way to solve problems is to externalize them , see them on a screen , even use imaginery people . Blame also focuses on the negative - what difficult child is doing and not what she could be doing and she needs help to articulate her goals and concerns and come up with a plan which is feasible and realistic. husband maybe part of the plan , but difficult child and husband will have to sit down and find a plan which is mutually satisfactory. Again , in my humble opinion we need to get of the blame word. Taking responsibility is not about taking the blame or even admitting what you did , but rather seeing that there is a problem to be solved and working on it. Not easy Allan [/QUOTE]
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