difficult child is really tearing the family up. He is to the point that he cannot hold a conversation with me without it escalating to yelling, arguing, raising his voice, swearing, hitting walls, etc. I have the dullest voice now when I talk to him so as not to upset him. It doesn't matter. If I react with no reaction it causes anger, when I don't respond he is angry, one word answers upset him. Things are very difficult. Yesterday was the first day he threatened people outside the family. He was home when he did so, but it was about a neighbor and he said he was going hit this mother with a baseball bat. (I had to tell him he hurt the neighbor's son's feelings, the neighbor came over to tell me earlier in the day). I was concerned by the threat. But he was calm within 15 minutes. He lied about the situation too. His lying is pretty much a constant at this point. Whether it is an exaggeration of a story or switching blame to someone else, we can never depend on hearing the truth. We are exhausted. We have so much help, but it isn't helping. We have respite, a community support program, a behavior specialist, a behavioral plan (ughh) a psychiatrist, an entire team to discuss issues and support, but we continue to see things go down hill. I am guessing we are getting close to another trip to the hospital (two trips this spring) or a trip to juvie. My husband is falling apart and my ddd is coping in ways that can't possibly be beneficial. I am trying to hold it all together. It is getting harder and harder. My job is getting in the way of caring for difficult child and my family. He requires so much attention when he is home. I am starting to wonder when the sitters will start getting threatened by difficult child. I am hiring them to cover for husband because he just can't deal with difficult child anymore. What am I supposed to do?