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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 554403" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I'm sorry. I know how crazy I went when Youngest and her kids were living with me, so I feel for you. I got through it by (1) going to therapy every couple of weeks, (2) throwing myself into a social life that kept me away from home as much as possible, and (3) reminding myself that it would end, eventually. It was not easy, and there were many days I thought I simply could not stand it another minute, but somehow, I did. </p><p></p><p>Worrying about a grandchild is heartbreaking, I know. This was my biggest issue as well, and it's something I still wrestle with from time to time. It must be incredibly frustrating to have no response from CPS. My therapist used to remind me that I had to detach from Youngest's parenting skills (or lack thereof) as much as I had to detach from her other behaviors. That's a tough line to walk, because of worries over a child's safety, but I knew I couldn't take custody so I had to learn to walk it anyway. Youngest can be neglectful and emotionally harmful to those kids sometimes -- but has never put the children in direct physical danger (as far as I know, anyway) so that made it slightly easier for me, there was never anything I felt compelled to call CPS about (or that I thought they'd take seriously enough to do anything). I mostly just knew the kids had a screwed up life and was sad for them. I've had to accept that, that's their life -- and just be a grandmother to them. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 554403, member: 1157"] I'm sorry. I know how crazy I went when Youngest and her kids were living with me, so I feel for you. I got through it by (1) going to therapy every couple of weeks, (2) throwing myself into a social life that kept me away from home as much as possible, and (3) reminding myself that it would end, eventually. It was not easy, and there were many days I thought I simply could not stand it another minute, but somehow, I did. Worrying about a grandchild is heartbreaking, I know. This was my biggest issue as well, and it's something I still wrestle with from time to time. It must be incredibly frustrating to have no response from CPS. My therapist used to remind me that I had to detach from Youngest's parenting skills (or lack thereof) as much as I had to detach from her other behaviors. That's a tough line to walk, because of worries over a child's safety, but I knew I couldn't take custody so I had to learn to walk it anyway. Youngest can be neglectful and emotionally harmful to those kids sometimes -- but has never put the children in direct physical danger (as far as I know, anyway) so that made it slightly easier for me, there was never anything I felt compelled to call CPS about (or that I thought they'd take seriously enough to do anything). I mostly just knew the kids had a screwed up life and was sad for them. I've had to accept that, that's their life -- and just be a grandmother to them. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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