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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 275910" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Steely, These last 6 weeks have been a great break for you. You have felt what it feels like to shed a lot of stress. I am not sure what is going on but have a feeling:</p><p> </p><p>1. Lack of sleep. Have you tried any of the suggestions to make your room more comfortable? How is that going? It will take a long time to catch up on that lost sleep. When you are tired, everything seems like more of a struggle.</p><p> </p><p>2. You mentioned not keeping up at work. Has the company placed too much on your plate as a new employee? You may need to step up and say, "Wait a minute please. I need more time to understand what I am doing before adding a new task or twist." I know that can be super hard to do.</p><p> </p><p>3. How have you been at leaving work at work? Do you transition well into home life and not giving work another thought? That is hard to do when you are in a new town and don't know anyone - work is all you know.</p><p> </p><p>4. Have you found a hobby or activity in your new hometown to do? How about friends? Meet any new ones that you can go for a walk with or out to dinner or a movie?</p><p> </p><p>5. In other words, are you bored? Do you need a challenge outside of work to focus on? Or are you doing exactly what you want to do outside of work?</p><p> </p><p>Six weeks is not very long to really settle into a new place, new town. You need to find something that will help you meet people. That is hard without kids in school. How about a community organization? Anything you would like to join or help with? Is there a college or community classes that you can take a night course just for fun to meet people?</p><p> </p><p>You have not become annoying. We are your friends. Remember, though some here do not know you very well, and those who do know you better still don't know you as a face to face day to day friend so can only go on what you type. We do not see your face to read body language or hear your voice so that you can go into the details you would with a face to face meeting. As you try to cover everything from details to emotions, we are trying to pick up on it to help. The chances of "hearing" something in a wrong way is possible.</p><p> </p><p>We all hate watching you suffer. I would suggest that you take a cue from where you were 7 weeks ago and start letting go even more. Ignore the negative thoughts or better yet say to them "Go away". I know it is impossible at times. My difficult child will say, "Mom, you think it is easy for me to just stop thinking like I do. I don't want to feel like this but it is not as easy as you think to stop it." I do hear your struggles. I do know if it were easy you would have been able to conquer it. All I can say is keep trying and I know it gets wearing. At least you are away from your old job.</p><p> </p><p>While you still enjoy your new life, try starting a content journal. Every day, write about what went well for that day - beautiful weather, finished a project, found everything you wanted at the grocery store, what made you smile, ect. Writing down positive thoughts may help defeat the negative ones? In the morning, read those from the day before. Mark the favorite days or content items and reread those every morning as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 275910, member: 5096"] Steely, These last 6 weeks have been a great break for you. You have felt what it feels like to shed a lot of stress. I am not sure what is going on but have a feeling: 1. Lack of sleep. Have you tried any of the suggestions to make your room more comfortable? How is that going? It will take a long time to catch up on that lost sleep. When you are tired, everything seems like more of a struggle. 2. You mentioned not keeping up at work. Has the company placed too much on your plate as a new employee? You may need to step up and say, "Wait a minute please. I need more time to understand what I am doing before adding a new task or twist." I know that can be super hard to do. 3. How have you been at leaving work at work? Do you transition well into home life and not giving work another thought? That is hard to do when you are in a new town and don't know anyone - work is all you know. 4. Have you found a hobby or activity in your new hometown to do? How about friends? Meet any new ones that you can go for a walk with or out to dinner or a movie? 5. In other words, are you bored? Do you need a challenge outside of work to focus on? Or are you doing exactly what you want to do outside of work? Six weeks is not very long to really settle into a new place, new town. You need to find something that will help you meet people. That is hard without kids in school. How about a community organization? Anything you would like to join or help with? Is there a college or community classes that you can take a night course just for fun to meet people? You have not become annoying. We are your friends. Remember, though some here do not know you very well, and those who do know you better still don't know you as a face to face day to day friend so can only go on what you type. We do not see your face to read body language or hear your voice so that you can go into the details you would with a face to face meeting. As you try to cover everything from details to emotions, we are trying to pick up on it to help. The chances of "hearing" something in a wrong way is possible. We all hate watching you suffer. I would suggest that you take a cue from where you were 7 weeks ago and start letting go even more. Ignore the negative thoughts or better yet say to them "Go away". I know it is impossible at times. My difficult child will say, "Mom, you think it is easy for me to just stop thinking like I do. I don't want to feel like this but it is not as easy as you think to stop it." I do hear your struggles. I do know if it were easy you would have been able to conquer it. All I can say is keep trying and I know it gets wearing. At least you are away from your old job. While you still enjoy your new life, try starting a content journal. Every day, write about what went well for that day - beautiful weather, finished a project, found everything you wanted at the grocery store, what made you smile, ect. Writing down positive thoughts may help defeat the negative ones? In the morning, read those from the day before. Mark the favorite days or content items and reread those every morning as well. [/QUOTE]
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