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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 432225" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Its not enough to "model" the right behavior... because when we do that, we turn it "on" and "off" - and in fact, it should always be "on". I don't like that term any more... </p><p> </p><p>Instead... try "practicing". We learned this trick from a resource teacher years ago - some kid would come running down the hall, or screaming down the hall, or whatever... and she would back them up to the starting point, stop them to catch their breath, and tell them to start over. It was amazing how often it worked. Our kids missed her when we moved, because the school was much more "under control" than most.</p><p> </p><p>I've used it... I blow it with the kids - or the resource teacher - or the therapist - and when I recognize what's going on (unfortunately, not always at that minute!), I ask to "backup and re-start" or as one therapist puts it "rewind the tape". Its amazing how often people are open to that... You cannot ever take back words spoken, but people appreciate a rerun more than an apology, because it demonstrates what you are like when you are practicing your new way of doing things.</p><p> </p><p>And yes, sometimes we have to stop and catch our breath before we re-start... we want the kids to know how to do that too, so... practice doing it right as often as possible, and then practice better recovery skills when things go wrong - so that they can learn how to recover, because they need that skill too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 432225, member: 11791"] Its not enough to "model" the right behavior... because when we do that, we turn it "on" and "off" - and in fact, it should always be "on". I don't like that term any more... Instead... try "practicing". We learned this trick from a resource teacher years ago - some kid would come running down the hall, or screaming down the hall, or whatever... and she would back them up to the starting point, stop them to catch their breath, and tell them to start over. It was amazing how often it worked. Our kids missed her when we moved, because the school was much more "under control" than most. I've used it... I blow it with the kids - or the resource teacher - or the therapist - and when I recognize what's going on (unfortunately, not always at that minute!), I ask to "backup and re-start" or as one therapist puts it "rewind the tape". Its amazing how often people are open to that... You cannot ever take back words spoken, but people appreciate a rerun more than an apology, because it demonstrates what you are like when you are practicing your new way of doing things. And yes, sometimes we have to stop and catch our breath before we re-start... we want the kids to know how to do that too, so... practice doing it right as often as possible, and then practice better recovery skills when things go wrong - so that they can learn how to recover, because they need that skill too. [/QUOTE]
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