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Lost- I want to help my parents, but I don't know what to do....
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<blockquote data-quote="plumpainter" data-source="post: 416537" data-attributes="member: 11514"><p>Thank you everyone for these loving and supportive posts!! I feel much better just having gotten it out there and of course having read your insightful responses.</p><p></p><p>My dad is my hero. He is the most intelligent, loving and wonderful person I have ever known, so this is killing me. I want him to be healthy and happy so that he can enjoy his grandson and any other babies we have in the future. My stepmother is also such a beautiful person- she is so loving and wonderful. It is hard to believe that with these amazing people raising him, he has still turned out to be like this. Every time he runs out of money and needs help, he tells my parents he wants to straighten out his life, and it starts all over again. Heck, I've even fallen for it a few times.</p><p></p><p>We have tried to talk to my father about the fact that we are worried that SB will hurt them. He usually responds with things like "No one can hurt me", or "I can take care of myself". And it pretty much ends there. </p><p></p><p>It's definitely not at a point where I would report SB abusing them. He is a very small (in stature) kid, and I think they are more afraid of SB hurting himself than they are of him hurting them. They don't tell me everything, but I don't think that he has ever directly threatened them. He only told them that he was going to stab his adopted father. </p><p></p><p>I will try and talk to them about going to meetings. I will tell him that if anything, they might meet people who can relate to them, and maybe hear what other people may be doing to cope. Can't hurt to try...</p><p></p><p>I guess you have all said what I have known in my gut- which is you can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. My parents can't do it to SB, and I can't do it to my parents. This is all so sad. I will do what you suggested and look for some meetings so that I can be strong for them when the next bad thing happens.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully he will reach a day when he really does make a positive change. In the meantime I will be as supportive as I can of my parents and hope that he doesn't try to hurt them any more than he has...</p><p></p><p>I am so glad I found this forum- thank you so much!</p><p></p><p>Quick question- Can someone break down the abbreviations for me? (easy child, difficult child, etc..) I'm new and need a little help <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="plumpainter, post: 416537, member: 11514"] Thank you everyone for these loving and supportive posts!! I feel much better just having gotten it out there and of course having read your insightful responses. My dad is my hero. He is the most intelligent, loving and wonderful person I have ever known, so this is killing me. I want him to be healthy and happy so that he can enjoy his grandson and any other babies we have in the future. My stepmother is also such a beautiful person- she is so loving and wonderful. It is hard to believe that with these amazing people raising him, he has still turned out to be like this. Every time he runs out of money and needs help, he tells my parents he wants to straighten out his life, and it starts all over again. Heck, I've even fallen for it a few times. We have tried to talk to my father about the fact that we are worried that SB will hurt them. He usually responds with things like "No one can hurt me", or "I can take care of myself". And it pretty much ends there. It's definitely not at a point where I would report SB abusing them. He is a very small (in stature) kid, and I think they are more afraid of SB hurting himself than they are of him hurting them. They don't tell me everything, but I don't think that he has ever directly threatened them. He only told them that he was going to stab his adopted father. I will try and talk to them about going to meetings. I will tell him that if anything, they might meet people who can relate to them, and maybe hear what other people may be doing to cope. Can't hurt to try... I guess you have all said what I have known in my gut- which is you can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. My parents can't do it to SB, and I can't do it to my parents. This is all so sad. I will do what you suggested and look for some meetings so that I can be strong for them when the next bad thing happens. Hopefully he will reach a day when he really does make a positive change. In the meantime I will be as supportive as I can of my parents and hope that he doesn't try to hurt them any more than he has... I am so glad I found this forum- thank you so much! Quick question- Can someone break down the abbreviations for me? (easy child, difficult child, etc..) I'm new and need a little help ;) [/QUOTE]
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