My mom is insisting on taking me to lunch tomorrow plus getting me a pedicure for my birthday. We were going to do it last week but the kids' dad cancelled on me so I couldn't go. I thought she would forget about the whole thing but she's insisting on going tomorrow. Part of me really wanted to say no due to the disastrous encounter we had last time we saw each other (remember when she cried and told me she feels terrible that her granchildren aren't being taken care of properly?) The other part of me REALLY wants that pedicure! I need one badly and I really do deserve it. My goal for tomorrow is to not talk about either difficult child AT ALL. I don't want to talk about their progress in school or their fighting at home or even how much they hate their dad. I want my mind to be completely difficult child-free tomorrow. I have no idea what in the heck we're supposed to talk about the whole time we're together, but I really want my kids to be OFF limits. It's going to be tough, especially with the new school year starting. My mom is a former high school guidance counselor and is hyper involved in their schooling. To a fault, as in I've had teachers and principals in the past beg me to tell my mom to stop calling them and badgering them. That is how overly involved she is. I don't want any part of it this weekend. Do y'all think it would be rude if I tell her no difficult child talk during lunch? Cause I am seriously considering it. I just want a nice peaceful afternoon with no blaming, accusing, or arguing. Is that too much to ask?