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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 548702"><p>Try to find out the reason for the lying. difficult child 1 only lies when he thinks he will be in BIG trouble, especially if what he did was an accident or had an unexpected result. difficult child 1 is also the type of kid that can't help his curiosity. He HAS to know how things work and these are the type of scenarios I can see happening in our house if difficult child 2 wasn't his twin. He would absolutely try it again very clearly expecting a different result. Have you paid attention to the tone of your voice when you confront him? Does it have the "you're in trouble tone"?</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, the hiding stuff ...... yea, that's difficult child 2 trying to be funny (practical joke) and trying really hard to follow through (lying about doing it) and not doing a good job at it. He gets so frustrated at not being able to pull it off that he denies he ever did it in the first place (save face). difficult child 2 is a horrible joker and an even worse liar.</p><p></p><p>Instead of punishing, I (personally) would get to the bottom of the why of each situation and teach other ways to accomplish the same "need". I also give difficult child 1 opportunities to take things apart when I can be there to supervise and put back together because I know that's how he "operates".</p><p></p><p>Good luck. I know it's hard but even that is serving a purpose for V and to nip it in the bud, you need to figure out what that purpose is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 548702"] Try to find out the reason for the lying. difficult child 1 only lies when he thinks he will be in BIG trouble, especially if what he did was an accident or had an unexpected result. difficult child 1 is also the type of kid that can't help his curiosity. He HAS to know how things work and these are the type of scenarios I can see happening in our house if difficult child 2 wasn't his twin. He would absolutely try it again very clearly expecting a different result. Have you paid attention to the tone of your voice when you confront him? Does it have the "you're in trouble tone"? On the other hand, the hiding stuff ...... yea, that's difficult child 2 trying to be funny (practical joke) and trying really hard to follow through (lying about doing it) and not doing a good job at it. He gets so frustrated at not being able to pull it off that he denies he ever did it in the first place (save face). difficult child 2 is a horrible joker and an even worse liar. Instead of punishing, I (personally) would get to the bottom of the why of each situation and teach other ways to accomplish the same "need". I also give difficult child 1 opportunities to take things apart when I can be there to supervise and put back together because I know that's how he "operates". Good luck. I know it's hard but even that is serving a purpose for V and to nip it in the bud, you need to figure out what that purpose is. [/QUOTE]
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