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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 351186" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hey Witz, </p><p> </p><p>How was the vacation? - Then what did you get me? <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> (really?) lol. </p><p> </p><p>So M thinks that Z stole or has hidden his check in an attempt to keep M at the apartment longer? Did I understand that correctly? Then he tells you he can't stand the way that Z goes on and on about his physical accomplishments when in fact in the beginning M enjoyed Z's company and companionship FOR the workouts? Hmm (taps finger) This sounds like maybe in the beginning all things were new and revolved around M and he enjoyed the attention and now? They are not. </p><p> </p><p> I suspect a twinge of difficult child jealousy more than I do hatred. From time to time Dude would get like this with his "associates". He tells me he has no friends. They are buddy-buddy, inseperable for a time I think he will have the one good friend and then wham! Just like you describe with M. The seething, picking, almost tattle-talesque not really hatred but more like he lost his best friend to the new kid in the neighborhood, or the new wore off syndrome. Then three weeks later after bending my virginal ears to the ground? Here comes the dirty so & so and they are like peas and carrots. (sorry I'm on a Forrest Gump thing with Ouixa in the house) </p><p> </p><p>Medication and therapy? Oh absolutely you are so dead on it's incredible. You're also correct in believing that it will be easier to push a car up-hill with 4 flats than to get them to agree to doing what would ultimately help them the easiest for the long run. In the mean time? I guess you could suggest he try some exercises for his anger. Maybe suggest he journal or type a journal. There are simple exercises that even MS people can do with tensing up every single muscle in your body - by sitting in a chair, and holding on to the bottom of the chair and pretend like you are trying to pull the seat of the chair off the legs while tensing up every muscle as tight as you can in your body for 1 minute. EVERY single muscle. If you hold it for 1 minute then release? Then repeate and relase? Do this three times in a row? I promise you can not keep anger in your body. It's physically impossible. It leaves you limp. The other thing you could suggest is that he get/find a NEW work out buddy. I wouldn't have a problem pointing him to anyone that could help him look up on line his tax problems - again just to be sure he understood correctly since he may have been so angry he missunderstood. Know what I mean?? Just double check. I would also suggest he maybe make a list of all of the things he likes and dislikes about Z - asking him to be honest and then close the tablet...hide it and then wait 2 days and go back and re-read what he wrote. If in his review his bad attributes still outweigh the good? Then M will know he really needs to move and can make plans from there. No sense in staying with a guy you really find that bad. If he finds that he really has more good points than bad - tell M it may have been that M was just having an off week, and maybe it wasn't all Z's fault. (share the ride) </p><p> </p><p>I'm not really sure you could do more than that except for the midnight burlap bag over the head....and wisk him off to Bora Bora...oh Wait - RATS....those are MY notes...sorry. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 351186, member: 4964"] Hey Witz, How was the vacation? - Then what did you get me? :raspberry-tounge: (really?) lol. So M thinks that Z stole or has hidden his check in an attempt to keep M at the apartment longer? Did I understand that correctly? Then he tells you he can't stand the way that Z goes on and on about his physical accomplishments when in fact in the beginning M enjoyed Z's company and companionship FOR the workouts? Hmm (taps finger) This sounds like maybe in the beginning all things were new and revolved around M and he enjoyed the attention and now? They are not. I suspect a twinge of difficult child jealousy more than I do hatred. From time to time Dude would get like this with his "associates". He tells me he has no friends. They are buddy-buddy, inseperable for a time I think he will have the one good friend and then wham! Just like you describe with M. The seething, picking, almost tattle-talesque not really hatred but more like he lost his best friend to the new kid in the neighborhood, or the new wore off syndrome. Then three weeks later after bending my virginal ears to the ground? Here comes the dirty so & so and they are like peas and carrots. (sorry I'm on a Forrest Gump thing with Ouixa in the house) Medication and therapy? Oh absolutely you are so dead on it's incredible. You're also correct in believing that it will be easier to push a car up-hill with 4 flats than to get them to agree to doing what would ultimately help them the easiest for the long run. In the mean time? I guess you could suggest he try some exercises for his anger. Maybe suggest he journal or type a journal. There are simple exercises that even MS people can do with tensing up every single muscle in your body - by sitting in a chair, and holding on to the bottom of the chair and pretend like you are trying to pull the seat of the chair off the legs while tensing up every muscle as tight as you can in your body for 1 minute. EVERY single muscle. If you hold it for 1 minute then release? Then repeate and relase? Do this three times in a row? I promise you can not keep anger in your body. It's physically impossible. It leaves you limp. The other thing you could suggest is that he get/find a NEW work out buddy. I wouldn't have a problem pointing him to anyone that could help him look up on line his tax problems - again just to be sure he understood correctly since he may have been so angry he missunderstood. Know what I mean?? Just double check. I would also suggest he maybe make a list of all of the things he likes and dislikes about Z - asking him to be honest and then close the tablet...hide it and then wait 2 days and go back and re-read what he wrote. If in his review his bad attributes still outweigh the good? Then M will know he really needs to move and can make plans from there. No sense in staying with a guy you really find that bad. If he finds that he really has more good points than bad - tell M it may have been that M was just having an off week, and maybe it wasn't all Z's fault. (share the ride) I'm not really sure you could do more than that except for the midnight burlap bag over the head....and wisk him off to Bora Bora...oh Wait - RATS....those are MY notes...sorry. :raspberry-tounge: Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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