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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 414073" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Glad that the clearance is moving along and that your explanation of the BK is on file - that can make a HUGE difference. Bankruptcy because issues due to a child's health/mental health issues is a TON different than due to "I wanted to go on a cruise and I used twelve credit cards I couldn't pay for to buy Gucci and Prada and Tommy Hilfiger clothes because I am too good to wear no brand clothes even if I cannot pay for them" in the eyes of the gov't and most employers. So you are on good ground there.</p><p> </p><p>I am glad PO has gotten things changed as far as family support needed - which sounds like you are a bad parent and you are an awesome one who has gone way more than the extra mile - and as far as difficult child's placement after release. I am sorry it hurts to see it, but agree that it needs to have happened.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child's letter is one HUGE ball of manipulation. Don't give him that info - if he wants it when he is 18 he can go find it. Until then, he is stuck with you nad he has done NOTHING to earn any kind of info from you - esp info he demands. He has NO right to demand anything - not after all the things you have done for him and all the ways he has violated you and your trust. As for the new charge, well, at least you have $ from HIS bank account closing. He can make demands when he lives on the right side of the law, in my opinion. As for the don't make me not have a mother - that is total manipulation ****.</p><p> </p><p>I would ignore all of it and pretend it was never sent to you. Except that part about the new charge and the $$. What happens if you do not pay the $$? Will htey keep him in longer to pay off the $$ with time served? IF so, insist on that - that way it is difficult child who is paying the tab and NOT you, Know what I mean?? At least ASK them about that, about what happens if you cannot pay the amt they demand for restitution - how is it handled then? I am sure there are kids with families who could not come up iwth that $$ at all who they deal with, so why not have this apply to difficult child with more time served rather than paying it off with cash. Cash has no meaning to him, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 414073, member: 1233"] Glad that the clearance is moving along and that your explanation of the BK is on file - that can make a HUGE difference. Bankruptcy because issues due to a child's health/mental health issues is a TON different than due to "I wanted to go on a cruise and I used twelve credit cards I couldn't pay for to buy Gucci and Prada and Tommy Hilfiger clothes because I am too good to wear no brand clothes even if I cannot pay for them" in the eyes of the gov't and most employers. So you are on good ground there. I am glad PO has gotten things changed as far as family support needed - which sounds like you are a bad parent and you are an awesome one who has gone way more than the extra mile - and as far as difficult child's placement after release. I am sorry it hurts to see it, but agree that it needs to have happened. difficult child's letter is one HUGE ball of manipulation. Don't give him that info - if he wants it when he is 18 he can go find it. Until then, he is stuck with you nad he has done NOTHING to earn any kind of info from you - esp info he demands. He has NO right to demand anything - not after all the things you have done for him and all the ways he has violated you and your trust. As for the new charge, well, at least you have $ from HIS bank account closing. He can make demands when he lives on the right side of the law, in my opinion. As for the don't make me not have a mother - that is total manipulation ****. I would ignore all of it and pretend it was never sent to you. Except that part about the new charge and the $$. What happens if you do not pay the $$? Will htey keep him in longer to pay off the $$ with time served? IF so, insist on that - that way it is difficult child who is paying the tab and NOT you, Know what I mean?? At least ASK them about that, about what happens if you cannot pay the amt they demand for restitution - how is it handled then? I am sure there are kids with families who could not come up iwth that $$ at all who they deal with, so why not have this apply to difficult child with more time served rather than paying it off with cash. Cash has no meaning to him, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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