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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 304987" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I've adopted four kids and found that they tend to be more like their bio. parents than us no matter what we teach them. This can be good or bad...my two adopted kids who still live at home are magnificant. But we adopted one child at an older age and he never really thought of us as his family. To be honest, he is so unlike us that it was a terrible match. There were similar traits between us and our other adopted kids, but not him. He never felt like he was ours, although we loved him very much. He took off eventually. I think this is more prevalent when we adopt older kids. I don't think my son who bailed really wanted our love. We adopted him at six from another country. He was a great child and young adult, but did a total rejection around 30 years old. These kids who often have inadequate prenatal care which can get them off to bad starts, and then there is the added issue of sometimes a lack of genetic compatibility. I often think nature trumps nurture big time. To me, due to your son's horrible behavior toward you, I am wondering if he suffered attachment issues. I'm sure my son did.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are hurting and, trust me, I know your pain. What he did was very insensitive. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 304987, member: 1550"] Well, I've adopted four kids and found that they tend to be more like their bio. parents than us no matter what we teach them. This can be good or bad...my two adopted kids who still live at home are magnificant. But we adopted one child at an older age and he never really thought of us as his family. To be honest, he is so unlike us that it was a terrible match. There were similar traits between us and our other adopted kids, but not him. He never felt like he was ours, although we loved him very much. He took off eventually. I think this is more prevalent when we adopt older kids. I don't think my son who bailed really wanted our love. We adopted him at six from another country. He was a great child and young adult, but did a total rejection around 30 years old. These kids who often have inadequate prenatal care which can get them off to bad starts, and then there is the added issue of sometimes a lack of genetic compatibility. I often think nature trumps nurture big time. To me, due to your son's horrible behavior toward you, I am wondering if he suffered attachment issues. I'm sure my son did. I'm sorry you are hurting and, trust me, I know your pain. What he did was very insensitive. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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