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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 391877" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>We had an early TG dinner at my difficult child-sister in law#2's house on Sunday. I managed to survive thanks to I-forget-how-many glasses of merlot. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wine:" title="wine :wine:" data-shortname=":wine:" /> </p><p> </p><p>This Thursday we are going to my mom's for TG for the first time in... maybe 15 years? 20? She quit hosting it because my difficult child-dad would having meltdowns and then would go "hide" in his computer room, leaving her to do all the work and all the socializing. It was way too stressful for her. Now that he's gone, she finally feels free to open her home to her extended family -- and I know she's excited <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> She's asked us to bring bocci ball so we all can play. Her sister in law came over to help her clean and get things tidied up yesterday. She's got the menu all planned, seating sorted out (she's got a small house and there will be 14 of us), and I think she is just delighted to be having her first holiday without the specter of my dad's mental illness tainting the day. It will be fun, but it will also be sad for me. I'm having a really hard time today realizing that my crazy dad won't be with us anymore and it's ironically painful.</p><p> </p><p>I hope that my grief does not become overwhelming during the holidays this year. I'm going to try to stay on top of it and make sure I ask for help sooner rather than allowing things to slowly and almost imperceptibly worsen until I finally realize how bad they are. That happened a few years ago, and last year I finally tweaked my medications when I noticed things starting to slip in October. I had a much better holiday season because I didn't ignore the early warning signs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 391877, member: 3444"] We had an early TG dinner at my difficult child-sister in law#2's house on Sunday. I managed to survive thanks to I-forget-how-many glasses of merlot. :toast: This Thursday we are going to my mom's for TG for the first time in... maybe 15 years? 20? She quit hosting it because my difficult child-dad would having meltdowns and then would go "hide" in his computer room, leaving her to do all the work and all the socializing. It was way too stressful for her. Now that he's gone, she finally feels free to open her home to her extended family -- and I know she's excited :) She's asked us to bring bocci ball so we all can play. Her sister in law came over to help her clean and get things tidied up yesterday. She's got the menu all planned, seating sorted out (she's got a small house and there will be 14 of us), and I think she is just delighted to be having her first holiday without the specter of my dad's mental illness tainting the day. It will be fun, but it will also be sad for me. I'm having a really hard time today realizing that my crazy dad won't be with us anymore and it's ironically painful. I hope that my grief does not become overwhelming during the holidays this year. I'm going to try to stay on top of it and make sure I ask for help sooner rather than allowing things to slowly and almost imperceptibly worsen until I finally realize how bad they are. That happened a few years ago, and last year I finally tweaked my medications when I noticed things starting to slip in October. I had a much better holiday season because I didn't ignore the early warning signs. [/QUOTE]
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