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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 392140" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well.......</p><p> </p><p>I can't be with any of my family this year AGAIN......</p><p> </p><p>I don't have a vehicle that will make it to Ohio, Dude can't come here because ......well 20 years in prison isn't a reality either. </p><p> </p><p>I can't even finish school because they MOVED the school 1.5 hours away and in order to graduate to get my CDL I have to drive 1/5 hours every day to get practice and I have TWO jobs waiting making RIDICULOUS amounts of money - Did I mention ONE was in OHIO? </p><p> </p><p>My house is a shamble and needs repairs from 10 years ago. </p><p> </p><p>DF's health is not good and getting worse. </p><p> </p><p>HOWEVER.................</p><p> </p><p>EVERY DAY - I wake up and I think....I can only do today as good as I can do...I'm not alone, I wasn't born stupid, it's not the end of the world - and with grace I will figure this out and everything happens in it's own time for a reason so STOP freaking out about it and just let it be - DO WHAT YOU CAN and be happy in the knowledge that you have THAT ability. </p><p> </p><p>So -----</p><p> </p><p>I went through every single room - and closet and drawer and shed and had a yard sale over 2 months ago - netted about $500 </p><p>Went to the flea market every weekend - netted about $400 for 2 weekend Saturdays</p><p> </p><p>I found nice stuff In my house and put it on Craigslist - Cleaned it, made sure to print any missing directions from the internet - and met people 1/2 way for $5.00 more in gas. INSTEAD of coming to my house. </p><p> </p><p>THIS helped pay my bills since.................My unemployment got cut, my food stamps got cut and the local food banks ran out of food. </p><p> </p><p>I mean when it rains it pours - but I have a smile that is my umbrella - right? RIGHT. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not standing down here yelling BRING IT ON GOD - but I'm also not going to stand here and fall apart now after all the stuff I've been through the last 20 with difficult child, my x, my life - I learned SOMETHING from it - so now is the time to apply it. </p><p> </p><p>Sooo I also got on the internet and found out HOW and WHO is helping in my area with paying bills and I contacted them - </p><p> </p><p>With the help here from suggestions posted on this very board - I got HEALTH CARE (thanks Susie*) for $20 - and now I'm in a program to get glasses and exam for $35 - still haven't gotten the call but I'm on the list. </p><p> </p><p>I got my home HVAC replaced and insulation blown into my attic - and an energy audit done - because mine blew up this last June - remember? (thanks to my Mom finding a program almost 2 years ago) </p><p> </p><p>Dude - while not in the best of circumstances with Daddy Disney (and it's not every good) IS LEARNING something - about life - IT WAS GOOD HERE. Imagine that. Horrible way to learn. HORRIBLE. Would never wish my x on my x - but fact remains - it's been an invaluable teacher to live with a psychopath. I mean - you think your MOM is crazy? Go live with yer Poppa. He'll show you crazy up close and personal and on a rapid cycle like you have never seen. </p><p> </p><p>And while all this is going on? My house is getting empty - so that by the time I DO have things sold out of here? It's empty enough tha tpeople CAN come in and work, I'll sell it and MOVE - </p><p> </p><p>Not the best laid plan - but Even DF has been on board since you walk through the house and it's almost echo can't help but make him throw stuff out. The money HE made at the yard sale alone was 'fun' pocket money - which he gave to me for bills....He threw out 2 trailers full of junk - and more is still going. Yeah - how much do you want to move. </p><p> </p><p>As far as food? Well just so happens that I was in one of the places asking for help and told a man and his wilfe about truck driving school. I got the feeling he had a past......so I told him if he had been clean for 5-10 years (depending) to apply and see what happened. It perked him up and he said MOST people wouldn't share that information. I thought that was silly - WHY NOT? Aren't we here to HELP each other in this world? So .........she shared with me about four churches that were giving away food - I managed to get our pantry stocked.....and found out that because my unemployment had been cancelled I qualified for food stamps. </p><p> </p><p>Well here's the weird thing - I had a reapplication in - and "booty-called" the foodstamp counselor at 5 minutes to 5 on Tuesday - (okay how weird is this - I hear HELLO? HELLO?) pick up my cell and say "Who is this please?" and explain my hiney must have dialed...apologized and the lady said "Did you have a reapp in?" I said "For foodstamps? Yes, but no one has called me back, didn't figure they would until after Turkey day." ----well THIS woman took the time to process my application and gave me not only Nov. but Dec. too - So I could get Turkey day ......and told me that I wasn't done with unemployment - to go reapply for that too. </p><p> </p><p>OH JOY - So I did ...........and I got back on for 6 more months at least. </p><p> </p><p>I mean it was awesome......And my caseworker called me back - and said they may put me up in a hotel all week to finish my training - so I can GET my CDL - go to work......and GET OUT OF HERE.......</p><p> </p><p>(insert not so silent scream) </p><p> </p><p>And that for me gets me to Ohio, closer to my Mom, and a place where my FAMILY COULD ALL be together for a meal....for once in the last 25 years. And I would really REALLY like that. </p><p> </p><p>that and a little donkey.....(snort) </p><p> </p><p>I'm just not willing to let bad and sad, and ugly and depressed take me down - no maam. Worked to hard to be this uplifted - Bottom of the mountain is not an option for this CD Board Mom. But I will extend a hand to anyone needing to be pulled up anytime. </p><p> </p><p>There is no where to go BUT up -</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 392140, member: 4964"] Well....... I can't be with any of my family this year AGAIN...... I don't have a vehicle that will make it to Ohio, Dude can't come here because ......well 20 years in prison isn't a reality either. I can't even finish school because they MOVED the school 1.5 hours away and in order to graduate to get my CDL I have to drive 1/5 hours every day to get practice and I have TWO jobs waiting making RIDICULOUS amounts of money - Did I mention ONE was in OHIO? My house is a shamble and needs repairs from 10 years ago. DF's health is not good and getting worse. HOWEVER................. EVERY DAY - I wake up and I think....I can only do today as good as I can do...I'm not alone, I wasn't born stupid, it's not the end of the world - and with grace I will figure this out and everything happens in it's own time for a reason so STOP freaking out about it and just let it be - DO WHAT YOU CAN and be happy in the knowledge that you have THAT ability. So ----- I went through every single room - and closet and drawer and shed and had a yard sale over 2 months ago - netted about $500 Went to the flea market every weekend - netted about $400 for 2 weekend Saturdays I found nice stuff In my house and put it on Craigslist - Cleaned it, made sure to print any missing directions from the internet - and met people 1/2 way for $5.00 more in gas. INSTEAD of coming to my house. THIS helped pay my bills since.................My unemployment got cut, my food stamps got cut and the local food banks ran out of food. I mean when it rains it pours - but I have a smile that is my umbrella - right? RIGHT. I'm not standing down here yelling BRING IT ON GOD - but I'm also not going to stand here and fall apart now after all the stuff I've been through the last 20 with difficult child, my x, my life - I learned SOMETHING from it - so now is the time to apply it. Sooo I also got on the internet and found out HOW and WHO is helping in my area with paying bills and I contacted them - With the help here from suggestions posted on this very board - I got HEALTH CARE (thanks Susie*) for $20 - and now I'm in a program to get glasses and exam for $35 - still haven't gotten the call but I'm on the list. I got my home HVAC replaced and insulation blown into my attic - and an energy audit done - because mine blew up this last June - remember? (thanks to my Mom finding a program almost 2 years ago) Dude - while not in the best of circumstances with Daddy Disney (and it's not every good) IS LEARNING something - about life - IT WAS GOOD HERE. Imagine that. Horrible way to learn. HORRIBLE. Would never wish my x on my x - but fact remains - it's been an invaluable teacher to live with a psychopath. I mean - you think your MOM is crazy? Go live with yer Poppa. He'll show you crazy up close and personal and on a rapid cycle like you have never seen. And while all this is going on? My house is getting empty - so that by the time I DO have things sold out of here? It's empty enough tha tpeople CAN come in and work, I'll sell it and MOVE - Not the best laid plan - but Even DF has been on board since you walk through the house and it's almost echo can't help but make him throw stuff out. The money HE made at the yard sale alone was 'fun' pocket money - which he gave to me for bills....He threw out 2 trailers full of junk - and more is still going. Yeah - how much do you want to move. As far as food? Well just so happens that I was in one of the places asking for help and told a man and his wilfe about truck driving school. I got the feeling he had a past......so I told him if he had been clean for 5-10 years (depending) to apply and see what happened. It perked him up and he said MOST people wouldn't share that information. I thought that was silly - WHY NOT? Aren't we here to HELP each other in this world? So .........she shared with me about four churches that were giving away food - I managed to get our pantry stocked.....and found out that because my unemployment had been cancelled I qualified for food stamps. Well here's the weird thing - I had a reapplication in - and "booty-called" the foodstamp counselor at 5 minutes to 5 on Tuesday - (okay how weird is this - I hear HELLO? HELLO?) pick up my cell and say "Who is this please?" and explain my hiney must have dialed...apologized and the lady said "Did you have a reapp in?" I said "For foodstamps? Yes, but no one has called me back, didn't figure they would until after Turkey day." ----well THIS woman took the time to process my application and gave me not only Nov. but Dec. too - So I could get Turkey day ......and told me that I wasn't done with unemployment - to go reapply for that too. OH JOY - So I did ...........and I got back on for 6 more months at least. I mean it was awesome......And my caseworker called me back - and said they may put me up in a hotel all week to finish my training - so I can GET my CDL - go to work......and GET OUT OF HERE....... (insert not so silent scream) And that for me gets me to Ohio, closer to my Mom, and a place where my FAMILY COULD ALL be together for a meal....for once in the last 25 years. And I would really REALLY like that. that and a little donkey.....(snort) I'm just not willing to let bad and sad, and ugly and depressed take me down - no maam. Worked to hard to be this uplifted - Bottom of the mountain is not an option for this CD Board Mom. But I will extend a hand to anyone needing to be pulled up anytime. There is no where to go BUT up - [/QUOTE]
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