Please, Please, Please don't feel you have to apologize for venting. I do it ALL the time and if I lose being able to use this forum as a sounding board, I will become a raving lunatic!
As far as the marriage and whether to kick him out or not, YOU have to make that decision and be clear about it, But think it all through first. I am in an unhappy marriage but we get along. We live like roommates. He is perfectly content with the way things are...no sex, no intimate connection, just real good buddies! I am not happy with that. We go to marriage counseling but have never been able to address the lack of connection between us because we always end up talking about the kids.
A few weeks ago I posted about wanting to leave my marriage and I needed a plan. I got a part time job, Mondays and Tuesdays from 3pm-9pm, and I hope to become full time once the kids are in school. I need to re-establish my career and save some money before I can do anything. I applied for Section 8 Housing, and was put on the waiting list, which of course is years long. My husband found the letter from housing stating they acknowledge my application. He asked me what it was for and I answered that I wanted to get information. My husband is the King of Denial. We never mentioned it again, and he contiues to act like everything is just great. I know that it is different. I have been unhappy for the past 4 years and have told him over and over what makes me unhappy, and what is lacking in our marriage. I have written him letters because he is not very easy to talk to, and he just keeps acting like things are ok. I want more out of a marriage than a friendship. I want to be able to post that my husband is my best friend, my Rock. He is not. He adds more problems because he engages with the kids and all the petty little stuff.
Wow, I did not expect to type this much, just wanted to share. I do have a plan and when I see a clear way out, I will go.
As far as the marriage and whether to kick him out or not, YOU have to make that decision and be clear about it, But think it all through first. I am in an unhappy marriage but we get along. We live like roommates. He is perfectly content with the way things are...no sex, no intimate connection, just real good buddies! I am not happy with that. We go to marriage counseling but have never been able to address the lack of connection between us because we always end up talking about the kids.
A few weeks ago I posted about wanting to leave my marriage and I needed a plan. I got a part time job, Mondays and Tuesdays from 3pm-9pm, and I hope to become full time once the kids are in school. I need to re-establish my career and save some money before I can do anything. I applied for Section 8 Housing, and was put on the waiting list, which of course is years long. My husband found the letter from housing stating they acknowledge my application. He asked me what it was for and I answered that I wanted to get information. My husband is the King of Denial. We never mentioned it again, and he contiues to act like everything is just great. I know that it is different. I have been unhappy for the past 4 years and have told him over and over what makes me unhappy, and what is lacking in our marriage. I have written him letters because he is not very easy to talk to, and he just keeps acting like things are ok. I want more out of a marriage than a friendship. I want to be able to post that my husband is my best friend, my Rock. He is not. He adds more problems because he engages with the kids and all the petty little stuff.
Wow, I did not expect to type this much, just wanted to share. I do have a plan and when I see a clear way out, I will go.