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<blockquote data-quote="ConcernedSC" data-source="post: 623080" data-attributes="member: 17793"><p>I feel bad that you are second guessing your decisions to have detached from your daughter and that you are feeling guilty. This is the reason my husband keeps thinking he must never stop helping his daughter, because what if something horrible happens, like ultimately she dies. But this locks people into a cycle where they are controlled by someone else and have no life of their own- it feels like being held hostage. I am the one who looks out for me before I look out for her- I had to start because it was my own survival instinct kicking in. I am the stepmother, not the biological parent. She sucks all the air out of a room, and I need to breath, too. I can sense it when someone is suffocating me. I have endured enough trauma already and I just can't be christ on a cross for her anymore, dying myself so she can live. Because that *is* what it feels like because they are so extreme.</p><p></p><p>Interestingly, I was reading some material recently about "The Secret", which is the Law of Attraction. Whether you believe that is real or not, I have taken some interesting tidbits away from it. One tidbit was- we should not interpret things as good or bad, it says. For example, running late. Is running late bad? We think so, but- if you would have been on time and going through the intersection right when that truck ran the light, maybe you would be dead and that would not be good. My husband's friend worked in the world trade centers and once a month they had a meeting in the twin towers. Well, he was late on 9/11 and as he came down the street in the taxi, he saw the building fall. Every one of his coworkers was killed. He was the only survivor.</p><p></p><p>So if your daughter had gone with you- how do you know that it would not have led to something horrific happening at your house, like the disgruntled boyfriend burning down your home, or who knows what.</p><p></p><p>My husband likes to bring up all the times we didn't go rescue her. That if ONLY we had rescued her maybe by a miracle she would be normal now. I don't think so. I think maybe she would have stabbed me and killed me, or maybe organized a home invasion for her thug friends so they could torture us and then sell our stuff and split the profits, or maybe it just would have been her lunging at me and me punching her in the face and then being arrested like a criminal and having her press assault charges on me for self defense, since she is an OUTSTANDING actress who really puts on a show. My husband always reverts to thinking all would be fine if we just would have done this, or that... but I can only envision far more turmoil and much deeper trouble from interacting with her.</p><p></p><p>And what is it with them losing their I.D.? My husband has replaced it so many times.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ConcernedSC, post: 623080, member: 17793"] I feel bad that you are second guessing your decisions to have detached from your daughter and that you are feeling guilty. This is the reason my husband keeps thinking he must never stop helping his daughter, because what if something horrible happens, like ultimately she dies. But this locks people into a cycle where they are controlled by someone else and have no life of their own- it feels like being held hostage. I am the one who looks out for me before I look out for her- I had to start because it was my own survival instinct kicking in. I am the stepmother, not the biological parent. She sucks all the air out of a room, and I need to breath, too. I can sense it when someone is suffocating me. I have endured enough trauma already and I just can't be christ on a cross for her anymore, dying myself so she can live. Because that *is* what it feels like because they are so extreme. Interestingly, I was reading some material recently about "The Secret", which is the Law of Attraction. Whether you believe that is real or not, I have taken some interesting tidbits away from it. One tidbit was- we should not interpret things as good or bad, it says. For example, running late. Is running late bad? We think so, but- if you would have been on time and going through the intersection right when that truck ran the light, maybe you would be dead and that would not be good. My husband's friend worked in the world trade centers and once a month they had a meeting in the twin towers. Well, he was late on 9/11 and as he came down the street in the taxi, he saw the building fall. Every one of his coworkers was killed. He was the only survivor. So if your daughter had gone with you- how do you know that it would not have led to something horrific happening at your house, like the disgruntled boyfriend burning down your home, or who knows what. My husband likes to bring up all the times we didn't go rescue her. That if ONLY we had rescued her maybe by a miracle she would be normal now. I don't think so. I think maybe she would have stabbed me and killed me, or maybe organized a home invasion for her thug friends so they could torture us and then sell our stuff and split the profits, or maybe it just would have been her lunging at me and me punching her in the face and then being arrested like a criminal and having her press assault charges on me for self defense, since she is an OUTSTANDING actress who really puts on a show. My husband always reverts to thinking all would be fine if we just would have done this, or that... but I can only envision far more turmoil and much deeper trouble from interacting with her. And what is it with them losing their I.D.? My husband has replaced it so many times. [/QUOTE]
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