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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 623108" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>RE, I think your words make sense. I am sorry, Cedar, that there is another "something" happening where you have to make a decision. That is so hard. What to do, what not to do? I don't know the answer. I do know you sound very tired. I get that. </p><p>What does taking care of yourself look like in this situation? Whatever that is, I hope you do that. </p><p></p><p>I wish we could save all of these people from themselves, and then save the others who are also hurting because of their behavior. I wonder if you can try the half-brother and see how that goes. Maybe she can visit you some and him some---summer is coming up.</p><p></p><p>Just a thought. Regardless of what you do, I can imagine that you are hurting. When you aren't numb. Please feel our hugs and our care and our empathy for you. You know we get it. And it just keeps on and on, and things happen we can't anticipate (thankfully). Focus on you, Cedar. Do nice things for YOU. </p><p></p><p>Yes, the ever-elusive IDs. I don't know about you but my driver's license has been in my wallet for about 10 years now. Never have lost it. But I don't live the kind of life they live. Right now my son also doesn't have his driver's license (again). He has a passport and a birth certificate, but no DL. It was stolen while he was on the street time before last. He said he hid his backpack but someone found it and got his ID. who knows?</p><p></p><p>So today he has been homeless for 40 days. I saw him today, took him his coat that I had washed. It was snowing here today---he called and asked if I could bring it by the day shelter. He said he slept in the abandoned house again last night and was tired. Tonight the SA has coldest nights so he is staying there. </p><p></p><p>I am working hard to just accept what is in front of my face. He is doing what he does. He is going to do it in the time frame that he does it in. If he decides that homeless is the way to go, then that is what he decides. It's hard to fathom, but there it is. It is what it is. I can't change it. He is surviving. And, I am slowing figuring out how to have a relationship with him, like this. He seems fine, balanced, calm, present. That is good. We say we love each other. That is good. </p><p></p><p>This weekend I am going away with two friends to a river house. We are going to hike, get massages, go to dinner, watch movies, talk, drink wine, sit on the deck over the river, sleep in our own bedrooms, read books. What could be better? </p><p></p><p>Life is good. It is what we make of it. </p><p></p><p>I am working hard on my blog--more than halfway there now. It is a really good thing and it's clearing my mind as well as my house. </p><p></p><p>I am grateful for all of the good things in my life today. I am grateful for the deep thoughts and counsel and listening on this site. What better respect and care can we give each other than to be present?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 623108, member: 17542"] RE, I think your words make sense. I am sorry, Cedar, that there is another "something" happening where you have to make a decision. That is so hard. What to do, what not to do? I don't know the answer. I do know you sound very tired. I get that. What does taking care of yourself look like in this situation? Whatever that is, I hope you do that. I wish we could save all of these people from themselves, and then save the others who are also hurting because of their behavior. I wonder if you can try the half-brother and see how that goes. Maybe she can visit you some and him some---summer is coming up. Just a thought. Regardless of what you do, I can imagine that you are hurting. When you aren't numb. Please feel our hugs and our care and our empathy for you. You know we get it. And it just keeps on and on, and things happen we can't anticipate (thankfully). Focus on you, Cedar. Do nice things for YOU. Yes, the ever-elusive IDs. I don't know about you but my driver's license has been in my wallet for about 10 years now. Never have lost it. But I don't live the kind of life they live. Right now my son also doesn't have his driver's license (again). He has a passport and a birth certificate, but no DL. It was stolen while he was on the street time before last. He said he hid his backpack but someone found it and got his ID. who knows? So today he has been homeless for 40 days. I saw him today, took him his coat that I had washed. It was snowing here today---he called and asked if I could bring it by the day shelter. He said he slept in the abandoned house again last night and was tired. Tonight the SA has coldest nights so he is staying there. I am working hard to just accept what is in front of my face. He is doing what he does. He is going to do it in the time frame that he does it in. If he decides that homeless is the way to go, then that is what he decides. It's hard to fathom, but there it is. It is what it is. I can't change it. He is surviving. And, I am slowing figuring out how to have a relationship with him, like this. He seems fine, balanced, calm, present. That is good. We say we love each other. That is good. This weekend I am going away with two friends to a river house. We are going to hike, get massages, go to dinner, watch movies, talk, drink wine, sit on the deck over the river, sleep in our own bedrooms, read books. What could be better? Life is good. It is what we make of it. I am working hard on my blog--more than halfway there now. It is a really good thing and it's clearing my mind as well as my house. I am grateful for all of the good things in my life today. I am grateful for the deep thoughts and counsel and listening on this site. What better respect and care can we give each other than to be present? [/QUOTE]
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