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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 623412" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>What DOES happen to their ID's? our city must be littered my difficult child's IDs. At least now he replaces them himself.</p><p></p><p>And Cedar...I don't know the right answer for your granddaugher and you and husband, but I think you will feel your way to it. I read Recoverings post about raising teenagers again and it made me ...want to puke! and your comments about the money...we basically spent the equivalent of private high school and private college on our difficult child by the time he was 17 and then....we just stopped. His psychiatrist warned us early on that he had seen families bankrupt themselves and hurt their other kids. I saw my own sister ignore her neurotypical older son to try to save her very severely autisitic (read nonverbal not toilet trained) younger one...the older is 24 now, working part time in a warehouse, the younger is 22, 7 feet tall, no aides will work with him, and my sister is divorced and manages him alone. Lotta lives sacrificed to that young man. Those lessons have been very, very clear to me. Somehow cutting off the financial investment was easy. I thought...everyone else will go to college...so this much is fair.</p><p></p><p>The judging? That has been an amazing journey. All I can say is...I am kinder now, and I try to pass it forward. I know what it is to be shunned by neighbors, to have school districts turn their back. I try to step in to support families and parents and even the difficult child's of others (one was in my house just this evening) because I can be strong when they are weak because...I've been there.</p><p></p><p>And ya'll are my rocks along the way.</p><p></p><p>But Cedar...I am so so sorry you even have to think about these things. I am sorry you have to know this stuff about your daugher, and that you have to worry about your granddaughter. Read what all of us have to say. Take some walks and breathe deep. Keep posting...you may have resolved this already, I am just trying to catch up.</p><p></p><p>With strong hugs,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 623412, member: 17269"] What DOES happen to their ID's? our city must be littered my difficult child's IDs. At least now he replaces them himself. And Cedar...I don't know the right answer for your granddaugher and you and husband, but I think you will feel your way to it. I read Recoverings post about raising teenagers again and it made me ...want to puke! and your comments about the money...we basically spent the equivalent of private high school and private college on our difficult child by the time he was 17 and then....we just stopped. His psychiatrist warned us early on that he had seen families bankrupt themselves and hurt their other kids. I saw my own sister ignore her neurotypical older son to try to save her very severely autisitic (read nonverbal not toilet trained) younger one...the older is 24 now, working part time in a warehouse, the younger is 22, 7 feet tall, no aides will work with him, and my sister is divorced and manages him alone. Lotta lives sacrificed to that young man. Those lessons have been very, very clear to me. Somehow cutting off the financial investment was easy. I thought...everyone else will go to college...so this much is fair. The judging? That has been an amazing journey. All I can say is...I am kinder now, and I try to pass it forward. I know what it is to be shunned by neighbors, to have school districts turn their back. I try to step in to support families and parents and even the difficult child's of others (one was in my house just this evening) because I can be strong when they are weak because...I've been there. And ya'll are my rocks along the way. But Cedar...I am so so sorry you even have to think about these things. I am sorry you have to know this stuff about your daugher, and that you have to worry about your granddaughter. Read what all of us have to say. Take some walks and breathe deep. Keep posting...you may have resolved this already, I am just trying to catch up. With strong hugs, Echo [/QUOTE]
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