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Malika...did you go to new psychiatrist today???
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 475969" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks for remembering and asking, buddy - that was thoughtful. Well, nothing ever goes as we imagine, right? So I can't really recall what I was imagining with this psychiatrist but anyway, it wasn't like that <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p>He seemed very approachable, slightly eccentric, in a huge office with beautiful bits of artwork around the place. He began by asking Jacob, not me, questions, speaking to him like an adult or a much older child - where he lived, where he went to school, when he saw his father, where his grandmother lived, etc. J was gyrating around the chair but sitting still. The doctor asked him to draw a picture of himself by his house while he talked to me - I told him about the adoption, the divorce, the problems of aggressivity, impulsiveness, the being oppositional if I was authoritarian. The doctor then spoke directly to J - I was rather surprised by this! - in a stern voice, telling him that just because his daddy lived in Morocco and he lived with me that he was the man or the boss of the house; mummy was the boss, he said, and he had to do what she said... J during this was hiding his head in his arms, kind of playing at being intimidated - I could see he was not really. The doctor looked at his picture and asked him again in this stern voice why he had drawn a picture of himself with a belly button like a baby when he was a big boy. He then said it was clear Jacob was very intelligent and asked me about school; I said there were no problems during class but more in the break times. He said that it was very clear that he was hyperactive but that the problem was that hyperactivity had now been lumped in with attention deficit disorder which J does not suffer from - he said that many conditions have been lumped together and that this had something to do with it being made easier to prescribe catch-all drugs. He repeated several times that Jacob was very intelligent and he seemed particularly struck by this. Also talked about him being tyrannical, egocentric because he was in search of an identity, having to impose himself on others because he didn't really know who he was, moving between three cultures and languages. There is probably something in this but I don't know how much.</p><p>Anyway the upshot is that he recommends he sees a colleague of his, a psychomotricien (a profession that does not seem to exist outside of France, a kind of marrying between the physical and the psychological) who is a man - this is rather rare - as he thinks it important for him to work with a man and he will see J occasionally after receiving a report from him. </p><p>Not really sure how I feel about this - I realised as I was sitting talking to him that I had ludicrously somehow been hoping for a miracle, hoping that he would somehow magically be able to provide a means of sorting everything out <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> A quite unconscious piece of absurdity... The psychomotricien, he said, would help teach him to calm himself and how not to be constantly hyperactive. So that is obviously important.</p><p>On the way back, I talked to J about seeing the psychomotricien and that he is going to help him calm down. "It will not work with me!", he said... Out of the mouths of babes and sucklings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 475969, member: 11227"] Thanks for remembering and asking, buddy - that was thoughtful. Well, nothing ever goes as we imagine, right? So I can't really recall what I was imagining with this psychiatrist but anyway, it wasn't like that :) He seemed very approachable, slightly eccentric, in a huge office with beautiful bits of artwork around the place. He began by asking Jacob, not me, questions, speaking to him like an adult or a much older child - where he lived, where he went to school, when he saw his father, where his grandmother lived, etc. J was gyrating around the chair but sitting still. The doctor asked him to draw a picture of himself by his house while he talked to me - I told him about the adoption, the divorce, the problems of aggressivity, impulsiveness, the being oppositional if I was authoritarian. The doctor then spoke directly to J - I was rather surprised by this! - in a stern voice, telling him that just because his daddy lived in Morocco and he lived with me that he was the man or the boss of the house; mummy was the boss, he said, and he had to do what she said... J during this was hiding his head in his arms, kind of playing at being intimidated - I could see he was not really. The doctor looked at his picture and asked him again in this stern voice why he had drawn a picture of himself with a belly button like a baby when he was a big boy. He then said it was clear Jacob was very intelligent and asked me about school; I said there were no problems during class but more in the break times. He said that it was very clear that he was hyperactive but that the problem was that hyperactivity had now been lumped in with attention deficit disorder which J does not suffer from - he said that many conditions have been lumped together and that this had something to do with it being made easier to prescribe catch-all drugs. He repeated several times that Jacob was very intelligent and he seemed particularly struck by this. Also talked about him being tyrannical, egocentric because he was in search of an identity, having to impose himself on others because he didn't really know who he was, moving between three cultures and languages. There is probably something in this but I don't know how much. Anyway the upshot is that he recommends he sees a colleague of his, a psychomotricien (a profession that does not seem to exist outside of France, a kind of marrying between the physical and the psychological) who is a man - this is rather rare - as he thinks it important for him to work with a man and he will see J occasionally after receiving a report from him. Not really sure how I feel about this - I realised as I was sitting talking to him that I had ludicrously somehow been hoping for a miracle, hoping that he would somehow magically be able to provide a means of sorting everything out :) A quite unconscious piece of absurdity... The psychomotricien, he said, would help teach him to calm himself and how not to be constantly hyperactive. So that is obviously important. On the way back, I talked to J about seeing the psychomotricien and that he is going to help him calm down. "It will not work with me!", he said... Out of the mouths of babes and sucklings. [/QUOTE]
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