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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 184626" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Being called "judgemental" because someone pulls out in front of you? Well, that is certainly a new one on me. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry. I have been through similiar things with Daughter. A couple of years ago I bought tickets to the show Riverdance when the touring show came through our area. I was so excited that Daughter and I would see it together! I bought the tickets months in advance and the anticipation was killing me.</p><p> </p><p>After about 10 minutes into the show, Daughter is stewing in her seat whining about how those girls are so pretty, thin, and are excellent dancers. She's sitting there cross armed mumbling. It's loud enough that a few of the people around us noticed. I was beyond angry and mortified. </p><p> </p><p>I tried my best to ignore her and enjoy the show, but it was really hard. I was thinking, "Yep, here I go again, do something fun, and Daughter can't even enjoy it because of her feelings of insecurity and inadequecies. I understand she's a teenager and and struggles with her feelings, but when I try to get her to do active things with me, she ALWAYS says no. </p><p> </p><p>She's jealous that people are good at something, but she won't work hard to be good at something herself. I try to talk compassionately with her, but she rejects it.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I was furious. At the intermission, I told her if she didn't straighten out and fly right I was going kick her butt down the aisle and all the way out the door. Plus, it was going to be the last time I would ever take her to a show again, and I meant it! </p><p> </p><p>She behaved and enjoyed the rest of the show. </p><p> </p><p>As far as yelling...</p><p> </p><p>I hear that all the time. I heard it this week, in fact. All I did was ask Daughter to pick up the dirty dishes in her room. Of course, food is not allowed in her room, but hey, when did THAT ever matter?</p><p> </p><p>Daughter goes off on me with one of her little hissy fits. "You're yelling at me. You're always yelling at me!".</p><p> </p><p>For the record, I rarely yell at her.</p><p> </p><p>So, here's one of my <em>STELLER</em> parenting moments: I proceed to YELL loud at her that, "<strong><em>This is what I sound like when I yell, OKAY? So, now you know what I really sound like when I yell! How I spoke before was not me yelling! Any questions</em></strong>?!?!</p><p> </p><p>Not exactly the most mature parenting moment for me, but she hasn't made one peep about me yelling since. Thing is, she was talking on the phone when this happened. I can imagine what that friend this thinking. </p><p> </p><p>Daughter says to me, "Mom, you're such a psycho!"</p><p> </p><p>"Yes, Daughter, and your point is???"</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I hope you feel better and recover soon. It really bites when they take a tude and your health doesn't allow you to confront it head on.</p><p> </p><p>Honestly, I really don't care what psychological reasons there may be for that kind of ungrateful attitude. It's unacceptable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 184626, member: 831"] Being called "judgemental" because someone pulls out in front of you? Well, that is certainly a new one on me. I'm so sorry. I have been through similiar things with Daughter. A couple of years ago I bought tickets to the show Riverdance when the touring show came through our area. I was so excited that Daughter and I would see it together! I bought the tickets months in advance and the anticipation was killing me. After about 10 minutes into the show, Daughter is stewing in her seat whining about how those girls are so pretty, thin, and are excellent dancers. She's sitting there cross armed mumbling. It's loud enough that a few of the people around us noticed. I was beyond angry and mortified. I tried my best to ignore her and enjoy the show, but it was really hard. I was thinking, "Yep, here I go again, do something fun, and Daughter can't even enjoy it because of her feelings of insecurity and inadequecies. I understand she's a teenager and and struggles with her feelings, but when I try to get her to do active things with me, she ALWAYS says no. She's jealous that people are good at something, but she won't work hard to be good at something herself. I try to talk compassionately with her, but she rejects it. Anyway, I was furious. At the intermission, I told her if she didn't straighten out and fly right I was going kick her butt down the aisle and all the way out the door. Plus, it was going to be the last time I would ever take her to a show again, and I meant it! She behaved and enjoyed the rest of the show. As far as yelling... I hear that all the time. I heard it this week, in fact. All I did was ask Daughter to pick up the dirty dishes in her room. Of course, food is not allowed in her room, but hey, when did THAT ever matter? Daughter goes off on me with one of her little hissy fits. "You're yelling at me. You're always yelling at me!". For the record, I rarely yell at her. So, here's one of my [I]STELLER[/I] parenting moments: I proceed to YELL loud at her that, "[B][I]This is what I sound like when I yell, OKAY? So, now you know what I really sound like when I yell! How I spoke before was not me yelling! Any questions[/I][/B]?!?! Not exactly the most mature parenting moment for me, but she hasn't made one peep about me yelling since. Thing is, she was talking on the phone when this happened. I can imagine what that friend this thinking. Daughter says to me, "Mom, you're such a psycho!" "Yes, Daughter, and your point is???" Anyway, I hope you feel better and recover soon. It really bites when they take a tude and your health doesn't allow you to confront it head on. Honestly, I really don't care what psychological reasons there may be for that kind of ungrateful attitude. It's unacceptable. [/QUOTE]
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