Hi Everyone!! I don't know if it's the transition from Sunday to Monday or what, but my difficult child got himself sent home from his summer program by 11:00 this morning! The usual meltdown, hitting other children, teachers and very, very angry. He has another appointment with the psychiatrist tommorow evening, in which we should be raising the dose of abilify that he takes. I have been much more happy with this medication than I was with the risperadol because there are so fewer side effects. Then again if its not going to work I suppose I would be happier with no medications at all. I just want these explosions at his daycare to stop. I was lucky today because his grandfather picked him up, so I didn't have to leave work and put my job at risk. He just started this program a few weeks ago and it is so awesome. They do a lot of physical activities with the kids which have been great with him. But no matter the success of the program, how great the teachers are with him, super structure or no structer at all, he cannot control his anger and rageful hitting outburst. ARRRRGGGGG!!!! The director and I were talking today and I was asking her what I could do at home to help this to stop ( I don't struggle with this behavior at home, even though I have in the past. And I feel it is so impulsive, that reward/punishment systems don't work at home.) She suggested that may be I spoil him to much at home. Ha~ Maybe I do, may be I have gotten really good at getting out of a conflict that I spoil him. I like to be able to say yes. And if it's not going to harm him (a piece of gum) why would I say no. I am a nice Mama Should I be saying no more, just to get him used to it? That just doesnt make sense to me. I say no for good reasons, not just because I can! The truth is, if saying no to every other thing that he asked for would help, I would do it. Really, I would rather every melt down, every explosion, would happen at home. I think I could take it. I am looking in to ordering the book that I hear recommended on here all the time. "The Explosive Child" geez if the name itself doesnt describe him perfectly. Some times I am just tired of trying new things. I just want to find something that works for more that a week. You guys are all awesome..