DDD
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I'm doing quite well with detachment but...this week it's difficult to keep my mouth shut. difficult child#1 has a "new" girlfriend who is not my cup of tea. She has a lengthly difficult child past, is a recreational ? pot smoker and I have no doubt she is also an alcoholic. Truthfully I don't see what the appeal can be as she is not a "looker" either. The other day he said "X has ADHD"...big shock, lol. I can spot ADHD and GFGness miles away.
This week I am trying really, really hard to "mind my own business" but last night I suggested that he might want to rethink her plan for this weekend. Like GFGmom his girlfriend has three children who are being raised by her parents...ok, we only raised two out of three...but it's a strong analogy. His girlfriend has plans for one day this weekend. She wants her twelve year old to "get to know difficult child#1" by spending an afternoon with the two of them. WTH?? Who in their right mind would introduce her boyfriend to a twelve year olf daughter?
I couldn't help myself. I "had" to say "difficult child you remember how you hated meeting your Mom's boyfriend's?? Her daughter is only twelve. How would she benefit from meeting you?" His response blew me away. "Mama X doesn't see me as just a boyfriend. She sees me as part of their future." Good Grief! My child advocate genes are screaming "leave the kid out of this". Meanwhile, I'm trying to remember the mantra MYOB. I "know" difficult child#1 will use his easy child side if it happens but darn it..his girlfriend doesn't have a easy child side! DDD
This week I am trying really, really hard to "mind my own business" but last night I suggested that he might want to rethink her plan for this weekend. Like GFGmom his girlfriend has three children who are being raised by her parents...ok, we only raised two out of three...but it's a strong analogy. His girlfriend has plans for one day this weekend. She wants her twelve year old to "get to know difficult child#1" by spending an afternoon with the two of them. WTH?? Who in their right mind would introduce her boyfriend to a twelve year olf daughter?
I couldn't help myself. I "had" to say "difficult child you remember how you hated meeting your Mom's boyfriend's?? Her daughter is only twelve. How would she benefit from meeting you?" His response blew me away. "Mama X doesn't see me as just a boyfriend. She sees me as part of their future." Good Grief! My child advocate genes are screaming "leave the kid out of this". Meanwhile, I'm trying to remember the mantra MYOB. I "know" difficult child#1 will use his easy child side if it happens but darn it..his girlfriend doesn't have a easy child side! DDD